You've got your whole life to do something, and that's not very long.If you could give one piece of life advice to a sixteen year old what would it be?
Always use condoms no matter whet he says! Stay safe and dont commit yourself too early to marriage or anything else, have a good young life there is so much out there to discover its too late when you have kids and a partner, make the most of your freedom but be careful!If you could give one piece of life advice to a sixteen year old what would it be?
Live with your parents as long as possible and spend spend spend - cos once you are a homeowner you will never see a penny of your hard earned cash again!
Think about the consequences before you act.
Try it, You might like it.
Don't get married ...ever.
Dont worry about boys/girls right now. Just focus on school.
buy a house or start a pension as soon as possible, dont waste your cash on booze or cars.
Enjoy it. Life's too important to be taken seriously.
Learn a good trade that will be useful to you.
You can work anywhere in the world with a carefully chosen trade,
I'm a plumber, I plan to work in either Australia or New Zealand with the next 18 months.
There is a whole heap of advice I can give you but you only asked for one piece of advice.
Good luck with your life, enjoy it and don't grow up too fast.
Don't get married and don't buy your own house.
Never be anyone's fool........
Better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all....
Regret things that you have done in life, instead of regretting the things that you haven't done
Also be your own person and don't do things to make others happy, do things that make you happy, even if it upsets others!!!
Good luck growing up its a long twisting road and full of many decisions.
Don,t take up smoking, costs a hell of a lot of money, doesn,t do your health any good, which you may not notice for thirty years or so, makes you smell, once addicted, it will run your life for you.
Have a look at all the sado,s standing in the rain to have a smoke!
Get a college education.
don`t be cheeky or you wont see seventeen! lol
Seriously, don't take yourself so serious! Realize as fast as possible, you don't know everything! In fact, you know very little of almost everything. Listen a lot, and speak a little - trust me, you'll have to do a whole lot less apologizing if you follow that one rule. I think I heard this piece of advice when I was sixteen, but I sure didn't believe it - I wish I had! By the way, I think you must be doing pretty well to even ask this question. Good luck!
dont smoke ever and dont have babies until your 30
dont be in a hurry to grow up too fast - enjoy your youth!
Take care of your roots, but don't be afraid to spread your wings.
Don't rush - there's always more time
follow your dreams. Everything is possible if you want it bad enough
Do NOT get a Girlfriend. Just stick it in everything with a skirt.
Wear a condom and never with your mates girl.
Go with your gut instincts!!!
enjoy it.
Follow your heart and everything will work out in the end.
Don't believe for one moment, that you are stupid.
plan ahead think about things and never do things that make ya unhappy and get a career
Be carefull when your young because it always affects your future!
If only I listened to that when I was young!
Live your life, learn to love yourself and make sure you are completely self sufficient before you even think about having kids!
Parents are getting younger and younger, what stability can you offer a child if you have not experienced life and cannot afford to live.
Now go and enjoy......xx
That what can't kill you can only make you stronger.
don't drink to much vodka at once it can lead to pain %26amp; smoking don't get you too far xx
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Hey i'm thinking about getting a cell phone. i just wanted to ask some advice on what would be a good plan!?
I would like to find one with either a monthly contract or possibly a pay as go that would have free nights and weekends. any advice. Is AT%26amp;T service any good? They have a $40 a month plan . thanksHey i'm thinking about getting a cell phone. i just wanted to ask some advice on what would be a good plan!?
That's what I've had for years, They have the best coverage in my area. That should be your biggest concern, how is the carriers service in the area you plan on using it. They are all constantly improving so price and options would be your only other issues
That's what I've had for years, They have the best coverage in my area. That should be your biggest concern, how is the carriers service in the area you plan on using it. They are all constantly improving so price and options would be your only other issues
I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
I'm around 14 and have been experiencing some sexual attractions to men. I still want to grow up and have a family, but I'm still open to the idea of having interactions with other males.
The problem is that my family and I are all christians. How do I come open about this. Should I say anything or just keep quiet. The other question is should I really try to start relationships or just stay to myself.
Please no criticism. I now how and i feel and i don't want people telling me otherwise.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
First of all. It is common for a guy your age to have feelings for another guy. My advise to you is this;
Just wait a while. Maybe a year or so. And if your feelings don't change or esclade, then there is a chance that you may be bi.
As to coming out to your parents and friends all depends on your attitude. I am a 17 year old gay male living in a small town in Ontario, so it was hard for me to be honest. (Given my surroundings.) This is how i did it. Just take it one person at a time. Start with a friend who is closest to you and will not judge you at all. Then start telling other friends in small groups or one at a time. (Tell as many people that you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to come out, then don't feel pressured to. But you can feel a lot better knowing that you aren't carrying a huge load on your back. It also builds self confidence.)
As for your parents... Sit them down make them comfortable, as them what they think about gays a bis and slowly work your way into it. And remember, they're your parents and they will love you no matter what. there may ben an initial shock, but they will come around And realize that its not a choice.
I hope that i helped you. ANd best of luck in the futur.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
All I can say is do what you feel is comfortable at the moment. Its perfectly fine to be curious or open up to new ideas, but if you feel like you couldn't handle the potential stress it may put on you family then maybe you should wait. If you feel like you are ready to open up to others and maybe start relationships then go ahead. If your family is very Christian then I think that it may be better to wait until you are a lot older and more independent (maybe college if you can wait that while) so you won't feel as inhibited and you have more control over your life. You are only 14 so don't try to rush anything.
Well, you can't fight your feelings towards other males, however it might just be a stage. This actually happens often, wether you realize it or not. Many teenagers question their sexuality, because many changes occur during those years. Since you're only a teenager, you have a long way to go before your sexuality is really decided. For now, you can have attractions to other men, but wait it out. See if you keep these feelings in the next few years. Later on in life, if you really think you're bi, then that's okay. Your family has to be willing to accept your decision.
I can relate..I'm still in the closet, I understand that I'm very much attracted to very good looking men and I'm 29 by now.
I believe in God but don't understand his way or natures way..Its a struggle. The truth is it is what it is..Sooner or later you will have to let go, YOU will be true to your self as G-D made you in his image.
So what ever happens be your self responsibly. Good Luck.
All I can say is don't judge yourself, don't beat yourself up. Never allow yourself to feel inadequate. I did when I first knew I wasn't straight.
But, I wouldn't go telling your family just yet. Like the person above says, it could just be crazy hormones.
You are very young and those feelings might change as you grow older, right now you just might be bi-curious. You might want to keep quiet about this right now with your family.
well sweetie i recomend you just expirament with someone preforabley someone you know and go from there then if u think ur bi then u can decide to come out or not i hope this helps xoxo best wishes
your just very curious just go and try it out if you dont like it then you know what you like
During your teen years, hormones are racing. Things you feel now will not be what you feel in 5 or 10 years. If I had sex with every guy and girl I found attractive in my teen years, I would have set some kind of world record. Many boys do feel sexual attraction to other boys in their teenage years. Many even have sex and relationships. But many do ';grow'; out of it. If you're curious, I think it's okay to date and kiss another boy but don't go beyond that. If you feel very satisfied romantically with that, you could be gay. If that's not enough and you just want to make out, that's just probably just normal boy hormones. Though I always found women attractive, I wasn't really sure until I was older and it became a little more black and white.
You aren't the only gay Christian in the world, for sure! Check out the Gay Christian Network and other websites I reference below. GCN has a special age forum just for young guys like you, called ';Cinnamon Waffles';.
Just follow your heart and be the wisest boy you can.
Do NOT come out to your family unless you have boyfriend in hand, and preferably are on your own and financially independent -- UNLESS your family demonstrates that they are not homophobic. After all, if you are bi, you still might end up with a girl.
Be honest with your passion, energy level and attraction. If a boy really, really really turns you on high, admit that to yourself and follow it up if he seems nice and trustworthy and feels likewise. If a girl really, really, really turns you on high, feel free to date her.
Just be truthful and don't lead people on .
Big hugs to a brave, honest boy. God bless you!
The problem is that my family and I are all christians. How do I come open about this. Should I say anything or just keep quiet. The other question is should I really try to start relationships or just stay to myself.
Please no criticism. I now how and i feel and i don't want people telling me otherwise.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
First of all. It is common for a guy your age to have feelings for another guy. My advise to you is this;
Just wait a while. Maybe a year or so. And if your feelings don't change or esclade, then there is a chance that you may be bi.
As to coming out to your parents and friends all depends on your attitude. I am a 17 year old gay male living in a small town in Ontario, so it was hard for me to be honest. (Given my surroundings.) This is how i did it. Just take it one person at a time. Start with a friend who is closest to you and will not judge you at all. Then start telling other friends in small groups or one at a time. (Tell as many people that you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to come out, then don't feel pressured to. But you can feel a lot better knowing that you aren't carrying a huge load on your back. It also builds self confidence.)
As for your parents... Sit them down make them comfortable, as them what they think about gays a bis and slowly work your way into it. And remember, they're your parents and they will love you no matter what. there may ben an initial shock, but they will come around And realize that its not a choice.
I hope that i helped you. ANd best of luck in the futur.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
All I can say is do what you feel is comfortable at the moment. Its perfectly fine to be curious or open up to new ideas, but if you feel like you couldn't handle the potential stress it may put on you family then maybe you should wait. If you feel like you are ready to open up to others and maybe start relationships then go ahead. If your family is very Christian then I think that it may be better to wait until you are a lot older and more independent (maybe college if you can wait that while) so you won't feel as inhibited and you have more control over your life. You are only 14 so don't try to rush anything.
Well, you can't fight your feelings towards other males, however it might just be a stage. This actually happens often, wether you realize it or not. Many teenagers question their sexuality, because many changes occur during those years. Since you're only a teenager, you have a long way to go before your sexuality is really decided. For now, you can have attractions to other men, but wait it out. See if you keep these feelings in the next few years. Later on in life, if you really think you're bi, then that's okay. Your family has to be willing to accept your decision.
I can relate..I'm still in the closet, I understand that I'm very much attracted to very good looking men and I'm 29 by now.
I believe in God but don't understand his way or natures way..Its a struggle. The truth is it is what it is..Sooner or later you will have to let go, YOU will be true to your self as G-D made you in his image.
So what ever happens be your self responsibly. Good Luck.
All I can say is don't judge yourself, don't beat yourself up. Never allow yourself to feel inadequate. I did when I first knew I wasn't straight.
But, I wouldn't go telling your family just yet. Like the person above says, it could just be crazy hormones.
You are very young and those feelings might change as you grow older, right now you just might be bi-curious. You might want to keep quiet about this right now with your family.
well sweetie i recomend you just expirament with someone preforabley someone you know and go from there then if u think ur bi then u can decide to come out or not i hope this helps xoxo best wishes
your just very curious just go and try it out if you dont like it then you know what you like
During your teen years, hormones are racing. Things you feel now will not be what you feel in 5 or 10 years. If I had sex with every guy and girl I found attractive in my teen years, I would have set some kind of world record. Many boys do feel sexual attraction to other boys in their teenage years. Many even have sex and relationships. But many do ';grow'; out of it. If you're curious, I think it's okay to date and kiss another boy but don't go beyond that. If you feel very satisfied romantically with that, you could be gay. If that's not enough and you just want to make out, that's just probably just normal boy hormones. Though I always found women attractive, I wasn't really sure until I was older and it became a little more black and white.
You aren't the only gay Christian in the world, for sure! Check out the Gay Christian Network and other websites I reference below. GCN has a special age forum just for young guys like you, called ';Cinnamon Waffles';.
Just follow your heart and be the wisest boy you can.
Do NOT come out to your family unless you have boyfriend in hand, and preferably are on your own and financially independent -- UNLESS your family demonstrates that they are not homophobic. After all, if you are bi, you still might end up with a girl.
Be honest with your passion, energy level and attraction. If a boy really, really really turns you on high, admit that to yourself and follow it up if he seems nice and trustworthy and feels likewise. If a girl really, really, really turns you on high, feel free to date her.
Just be truthful and don't lead people on .
Big hugs to a brave, honest boy. God bless you!
Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Just curious.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...blackheads makeup reviews
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
Anything you wish u knew before u actually became a mom or wish somebody had told you? If there was just one thing you had to pass along...what would it be? First time mom in May!!If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Just curious.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
Anything you wish u knew before u actually became a mom or wish somebody had told you? If there was just one thing you had to pass along...what would it be? First time mom in May!!If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
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