You've got your whole life to do something, and that's not very long.If you could give one piece of life advice to a sixteen year old what would it be?
Always use condoms no matter whet he says! Stay safe and dont commit yourself too early to marriage or anything else, have a good young life there is so much out there to discover its too late when you have kids and a partner, make the most of your freedom but be careful!If you could give one piece of life advice to a sixteen year old what would it be?
Live with your parents as long as possible and spend spend spend - cos once you are a homeowner you will never see a penny of your hard earned cash again!
Think about the consequences before you act.
Try it, You might like it.
Don't get married ...ever.
Dont worry about boys/girls right now. Just focus on school.
buy a house or start a pension as soon as possible, dont waste your cash on booze or cars.
Enjoy it. Life's too important to be taken seriously.
Learn a good trade that will be useful to you.
You can work anywhere in the world with a carefully chosen trade,
I'm a plumber, I plan to work in either Australia or New Zealand with the next 18 months.
There is a whole heap of advice I can give you but you only asked for one piece of advice.
Good luck with your life, enjoy it and don't grow up too fast.
Don't get married and don't buy your own house.
Never be anyone's fool........
Better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all....
Regret things that you have done in life, instead of regretting the things that you haven't done
Also be your own person and don't do things to make others happy, do things that make you happy, even if it upsets others!!!
Good luck growing up its a long twisting road and full of many decisions.
Don,t take up smoking, costs a hell of a lot of money, doesn,t do your health any good, which you may not notice for thirty years or so, makes you smell, once addicted, it will run your life for you.
Have a look at all the sado,s standing in the rain to have a smoke!
Get a college education.
don`t be cheeky or you wont see seventeen! lol
Seriously, don't take yourself so serious! Realize as fast as possible, you don't know everything! In fact, you know very little of almost everything. Listen a lot, and speak a little - trust me, you'll have to do a whole lot less apologizing if you follow that one rule. I think I heard this piece of advice when I was sixteen, but I sure didn't believe it - I wish I had! By the way, I think you must be doing pretty well to even ask this question. Good luck!
dont smoke ever and dont have babies until your 30
dont be in a hurry to grow up too fast - enjoy your youth!
Take care of your roots, but don't be afraid to spread your wings.
Don't rush - there's always more time
follow your dreams. Everything is possible if you want it bad enough
Do NOT get a Girlfriend. Just stick it in everything with a skirt.
Wear a condom and never with your mates girl.
Go with your gut instincts!!!
enjoy it.
Follow your heart and everything will work out in the end.
Don't believe for one moment, that you are stupid.
plan ahead think about things and never do things that make ya unhappy and get a career
Be carefull when your young because it always affects your future!
If only I listened to that when I was young!
Live your life, learn to love yourself and make sure you are completely self sufficient before you even think about having kids!
Parents are getting younger and younger, what stability can you offer a child if you have not experienced life and cannot afford to live.
Now go and enjoy......xx
That what can't kill you can only make you stronger.
don't drink to much vodka at once it can lead to pain %26amp; smoking don't get you too far xx
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Hey i'm thinking about getting a cell phone. i just wanted to ask some advice on what would be a good plan!?
I would like to find one with either a monthly contract or possibly a pay as go that would have free nights and weekends. any advice. Is AT%26amp;T service any good? They have a $40 a month plan . thanksHey i'm thinking about getting a cell phone. i just wanted to ask some advice on what would be a good plan!?
That's what I've had for years, They have the best coverage in my area. That should be your biggest concern, how is the carriers service in the area you plan on using it. They are all constantly improving so price and options would be your only other issues
That's what I've had for years, They have the best coverage in my area. That should be your biggest concern, how is the carriers service in the area you plan on using it. They are all constantly improving so price and options would be your only other issues
I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
I'm around 14 and have been experiencing some sexual attractions to men. I still want to grow up and have a family, but I'm still open to the idea of having interactions with other males.
The problem is that my family and I are all christians. How do I come open about this. Should I say anything or just keep quiet. The other question is should I really try to start relationships or just stay to myself.
Please no criticism. I now how and i feel and i don't want people telling me otherwise.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
First of all. It is common for a guy your age to have feelings for another guy. My advise to you is this;
Just wait a while. Maybe a year or so. And if your feelings don't change or esclade, then there is a chance that you may be bi.
As to coming out to your parents and friends all depends on your attitude. I am a 17 year old gay male living in a small town in Ontario, so it was hard for me to be honest. (Given my surroundings.) This is how i did it. Just take it one person at a time. Start with a friend who is closest to you and will not judge you at all. Then start telling other friends in small groups or one at a time. (Tell as many people that you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to come out, then don't feel pressured to. But you can feel a lot better knowing that you aren't carrying a huge load on your back. It also builds self confidence.)
As for your parents... Sit them down make them comfortable, as them what they think about gays a bis and slowly work your way into it. And remember, they're your parents and they will love you no matter what. there may ben an initial shock, but they will come around And realize that its not a choice.
I hope that i helped you. ANd best of luck in the futur.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
All I can say is do what you feel is comfortable at the moment. Its perfectly fine to be curious or open up to new ideas, but if you feel like you couldn't handle the potential stress it may put on you family then maybe you should wait. If you feel like you are ready to open up to others and maybe start relationships then go ahead. If your family is very Christian then I think that it may be better to wait until you are a lot older and more independent (maybe college if you can wait that while) so you won't feel as inhibited and you have more control over your life. You are only 14 so don't try to rush anything.
Well, you can't fight your feelings towards other males, however it might just be a stage. This actually happens often, wether you realize it or not. Many teenagers question their sexuality, because many changes occur during those years. Since you're only a teenager, you have a long way to go before your sexuality is really decided. For now, you can have attractions to other men, but wait it out. See if you keep these feelings in the next few years. Later on in life, if you really think you're bi, then that's okay. Your family has to be willing to accept your decision.
I can relate..I'm still in the closet, I understand that I'm very much attracted to very good looking men and I'm 29 by now.
I believe in God but don't understand his way or natures way..Its a struggle. The truth is it is what it is..Sooner or later you will have to let go, YOU will be true to your self as G-D made you in his image.
So what ever happens be your self responsibly. Good Luck.
All I can say is don't judge yourself, don't beat yourself up. Never allow yourself to feel inadequate. I did when I first knew I wasn't straight.
But, I wouldn't go telling your family just yet. Like the person above says, it could just be crazy hormones.
You are very young and those feelings might change as you grow older, right now you just might be bi-curious. You might want to keep quiet about this right now with your family.
well sweetie i recomend you just expirament with someone preforabley someone you know and go from there then if u think ur bi then u can decide to come out or not i hope this helps xoxo best wishes
your just very curious just go and try it out if you dont like it then you know what you like
During your teen years, hormones are racing. Things you feel now will not be what you feel in 5 or 10 years. If I had sex with every guy and girl I found attractive in my teen years, I would have set some kind of world record. Many boys do feel sexual attraction to other boys in their teenage years. Many even have sex and relationships. But many do ';grow'; out of it. If you're curious, I think it's okay to date and kiss another boy but don't go beyond that. If you feel very satisfied romantically with that, you could be gay. If that's not enough and you just want to make out, that's just probably just normal boy hormones. Though I always found women attractive, I wasn't really sure until I was older and it became a little more black and white.
You aren't the only gay Christian in the world, for sure! Check out the Gay Christian Network and other websites I reference below. GCN has a special age forum just for young guys like you, called ';Cinnamon Waffles';.
Just follow your heart and be the wisest boy you can.
Do NOT come out to your family unless you have boyfriend in hand, and preferably are on your own and financially independent -- UNLESS your family demonstrates that they are not homophobic. After all, if you are bi, you still might end up with a girl.
Be honest with your passion, energy level and attraction. If a boy really, really really turns you on high, admit that to yourself and follow it up if he seems nice and trustworthy and feels likewise. If a girl really, really, really turns you on high, feel free to date her.
Just be truthful and don't lead people on .
Big hugs to a brave, honest boy. God bless you!
The problem is that my family and I are all christians. How do I come open about this. Should I say anything or just keep quiet. The other question is should I really try to start relationships or just stay to myself.
Please no criticism. I now how and i feel and i don't want people telling me otherwise.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
First of all. It is common for a guy your age to have feelings for another guy. My advise to you is this;
Just wait a while. Maybe a year or so. And if your feelings don't change or esclade, then there is a chance that you may be bi.
As to coming out to your parents and friends all depends on your attitude. I am a 17 year old gay male living in a small town in Ontario, so it was hard for me to be honest. (Given my surroundings.) This is how i did it. Just take it one person at a time. Start with a friend who is closest to you and will not judge you at all. Then start telling other friends in small groups or one at a time. (Tell as many people that you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to come out, then don't feel pressured to. But you can feel a lot better knowing that you aren't carrying a huge load on your back. It also builds self confidence.)
As for your parents... Sit them down make them comfortable, as them what they think about gays a bis and slowly work your way into it. And remember, they're your parents and they will love you no matter what. there may ben an initial shock, but they will come around And realize that its not a choice.
I hope that i helped you. ANd best of luck in the futur.I'm a young teenager who thinks I might be Bi. Can you give some advice.?
All I can say is do what you feel is comfortable at the moment. Its perfectly fine to be curious or open up to new ideas, but if you feel like you couldn't handle the potential stress it may put on you family then maybe you should wait. If you feel like you are ready to open up to others and maybe start relationships then go ahead. If your family is very Christian then I think that it may be better to wait until you are a lot older and more independent (maybe college if you can wait that while) so you won't feel as inhibited and you have more control over your life. You are only 14 so don't try to rush anything.
Well, you can't fight your feelings towards other males, however it might just be a stage. This actually happens often, wether you realize it or not. Many teenagers question their sexuality, because many changes occur during those years. Since you're only a teenager, you have a long way to go before your sexuality is really decided. For now, you can have attractions to other men, but wait it out. See if you keep these feelings in the next few years. Later on in life, if you really think you're bi, then that's okay. Your family has to be willing to accept your decision.
I can relate..I'm still in the closet, I understand that I'm very much attracted to very good looking men and I'm 29 by now.
I believe in God but don't understand his way or natures way..Its a struggle. The truth is it is what it is..Sooner or later you will have to let go, YOU will be true to your self as G-D made you in his image.
So what ever happens be your self responsibly. Good Luck.
All I can say is don't judge yourself, don't beat yourself up. Never allow yourself to feel inadequate. I did when I first knew I wasn't straight.
But, I wouldn't go telling your family just yet. Like the person above says, it could just be crazy hormones.
You are very young and those feelings might change as you grow older, right now you just might be bi-curious. You might want to keep quiet about this right now with your family.
well sweetie i recomend you just expirament with someone preforabley someone you know and go from there then if u think ur bi then u can decide to come out or not i hope this helps xoxo best wishes
your just very curious just go and try it out if you dont like it then you know what you like
During your teen years, hormones are racing. Things you feel now will not be what you feel in 5 or 10 years. If I had sex with every guy and girl I found attractive in my teen years, I would have set some kind of world record. Many boys do feel sexual attraction to other boys in their teenage years. Many even have sex and relationships. But many do ';grow'; out of it. If you're curious, I think it's okay to date and kiss another boy but don't go beyond that. If you feel very satisfied romantically with that, you could be gay. If that's not enough and you just want to make out, that's just probably just normal boy hormones. Though I always found women attractive, I wasn't really sure until I was older and it became a little more black and white.
You aren't the only gay Christian in the world, for sure! Check out the Gay Christian Network and other websites I reference below. GCN has a special age forum just for young guys like you, called ';Cinnamon Waffles';.
Just follow your heart and be the wisest boy you can.
Do NOT come out to your family unless you have boyfriend in hand, and preferably are on your own and financially independent -- UNLESS your family demonstrates that they are not homophobic. After all, if you are bi, you still might end up with a girl.
Be honest with your passion, energy level and attraction. If a boy really, really really turns you on high, admit that to yourself and follow it up if he seems nice and trustworthy and feels likewise. If a girl really, really, really turns you on high, feel free to date her.
Just be truthful and don't lead people on .
Big hugs to a brave, honest boy. God bless you!
Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Just curious.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...blackheads makeup reviews
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
Anything you wish u knew before u actually became a mom or wish somebody had told you? If there was just one thing you had to pass along...what would it be? First time mom in May!!If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Just curious.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
Slow,soft, light biting with your lips to hers, being kissed straight on, light tongue then a very sensual slow licking of the tongue. Slow and sensual works for me. I find it very romantic and a turn on. Good luck.Ladies if you could give men any advice about KISSING, what would it be?
Hold your lady's face in your hands and turn her head to receive your kiss. Make sure your breath is fresh and watch the tongue- a little goes a long way. Oh one last thing, don't inhale her whole mouth into yours, kissing is supposed to be done on lips, also don't ';chew'; while kissing, a little opening and closing of your mouth is ok though.....
1. Watch what you eat. If you decide to have onions or garlic, make sure she eats them as well !!!
2. Watch your hygiene... brush and floss. Use mouthwash as well.
3. Shave before a date. ALWAYS. I mean it. Few things make women feel like kicking a man's butt....but kissing a man whose cheeks feel like sandpaper is not fun at all...! It's even worse if you are supposed to have sex later...
4. Don't be too slobbery or too noisy. Kiss with strength but with gentleness as well. (Older men know what this means. Young kids don't.)
Start by trying to connect emotionally like laughing, staring in her eyes, or stroking her hair. Then lead in with a light kiss and work your way from there
From one man to another...
Kiss there a**!
That's where women like to be kissed!
Don't hurry it.
1. Don't shove your tounge down her throat (its discusting)
2. make sure ur not all slobbery( it makes us want to barf)
3. Don't put a ton of force behind the kiss
We REALLY don't like wet kisses! Swallow your spit before a long slow one! PLEASE!!!
dont be hasty, take your time and make it tasty...
If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
Anything you wish u knew before u actually became a mom or wish somebody had told you? If there was just one thing you had to pass along...what would it be? First time mom in May!!If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
That's a toughy. I wasn't worried so much about caring for my baby as I was trying to get her OUT of me. I thought my doctor knew best and let him push me into a c-section and I regret it every time I look at my body in the mirror. Question authority. Research your delivery hospital. Get an advocate...someone who will make sure your wishes are carried out!
I know...that may not be the type of advice you were looking for...but if someone had told me what could happen when you let doctors talk you into things b/c you think they know so much...I would have done things way differently.If there was just one piece of advice you had to give to a first time mom, what would it be?
I may get lots of thumbs down for this, but I don't care. I didn't want to breastfeed for several reasons. I was nervous about not knowing exactly how much they were getting, couldn't get comfortable with doing it in public, and wanted to be able to share middle-of-the-night wakeup calls with my husband. My mom gave me and my brother formula and we turned out fine, but my MIL exclusively breastfed all four of her boys and thought her way was the only way. She threw a fit when I told her (before the baby was born) that I wasn't planning on nursing and gave me an hourlong lecture on the benefits of breastmilk. I finally agreed, mostly to shut her up, and nursed for about the first six weeks, but finally decided I didn't care what she or anyone else thought and switched to formula. My daughter didn't care, and that's all that really mattered to me. If you choose to nurse, that's great, but LET IT BE YOUR DECISION!!! Don't let yourself be railroaded by family, friends, or anyone else.
Relax %26amp; enjoy your new role. If you're tired, snooze when the baby naps and don't feel pressured to even leave your bedroom for a whole day, if needed.
Congratulations on your new arrival! Good luck!
Also, one of my favorite quotes:
';If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much.'; Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis:
Trial and error. If your baby is hysterical and you don't know why, go through trial and error until you get the answer. Hungry...tried it no.....dirty nappy.....no......tired.....no.......pai鈥?ie colic, constipation, needs to burp......cold or hot?
Just go through the usual suspects and give each one a good go. Also thinking about the time might help you, for example, your baby might not take the breast or the bottle and you might think they are not hungry but they may just be fussy and need you to sing in a soothing voice or to rock them gently to take the bottle.
Sometimes when they are really hysterical it can really be upsetting, but try and keep calm and you'll find it easier to find the answer. Remember, babies are resilliant little things, they dont break!
Congrats :o) and if you have any probs with breast feeding, go to the la leche league website. www.llli.org
when u are having a stressful problem, or they want to be held all day, cry all day, etc...don't get mad or upset, just remember that that is their only way of communicating anything, and they have only been in this big, new, scary world for a short time. they recognize mom by her voice, her smell, her heartbeat, and so she's the person they feel secure with and insecure without...if you need to get a baby carrier and wear the baby...i would also strongly suggest you get a good book that explains their development as they grow so that you understand where they are mentally at any given time....' what to expect the first year' is a good one and a good reference...but there are others...patience, and love, love, patience...gl, it's wonderful to feel that bond with that tiny part of you in your arms..
My mom told me one thing and boy was I glad I listened! She told me NOT to be quiet when the baby was born. She said not to fuss about the baby being asleep and go on about my Business. That was the biggest help of my life! When babies are small the only time you have to do anything is when they are sleeping. I could vacuum the room while my son was asleep and he wouldn't wake up. This is my favorite piece of advice because believe me you are going to need to do things around the house that make noise! My children are now 7 and 9 and the best sleepers! Good luck hun
My advice would be to listen to all the advice you will receive, but just take bits and pieces of what you want out of it, don't expect that that there are right or wrong answers... I have a 10 week old and being the control freak that I am, i was really stressed for the first couple of weeks as I expected that there should be answers as to why he was or was not doing certain things at certain times, and this wasn't the case, so go with your instint and its usually right, and don't get too caught up in what the ';experts'; say is right or wrong, in theory its pretty simple, for the first few weeks all they want is food and love and clean clothes, so if you can give your new baby that, then thats all that matters!
Kids are very impressionable be careful what you say and do around them
Also fears can be instilled at any age, try to not scare them in any way you dont want you kid to be outrageously afraid of ridiculous things when they get older
like im afraid of having empty space under my bed i guess you could say im afraid of the boogeyman because of a very harmless trick my mom played on my when i was 8 years old i have to now sleep on a frameless bed
Prepare to have vomit, poop, and pee on multiple surfaces such as: couches, beds, floors, chairs, carpet, bathtub, including yourself (clothes, hands, everything).
And as soon as you clean it up (especially vomit) they do again all over the bed, clothes and in their hair.
Most vomit fits happen in the middle of the night.
I took a Child Development class so the number one thing we learn is Never ever ignore your childs crys. even if you think they just want attention, pay attention. It is Erikson's first stage of development of Trust VS Mistrust. you want to build that trust with your baby and soon the baby will start to trust others. that is one of the most important thing you can learn from erikson. look him up and see the other but this sets off a chain reaction. Trust me on this. my major is child development
Everyone will probably tell you this one, but it's important: sleep when the baby sleeps! Everything else can wait!
I wish someone would have told me that during pregnancy my feet would get bigger and stay that way. After 3 kids, my feet are so wide, I have to buy men's 4E width athletic shoes. It's not easy to find a 7 1/2 4E!
Prepare yourself for a total life change... i didnt even notice until now (my son is 4 months old) but i only tend to hang around other friends that have babies... everything you do is revolved around your baby... everyone knows this while being pregnant but you dont realise the extent until you have bub... so my advice would be to prepare your mental state of mind. expect to stay home more...
oh and babies dont tend to have a routine until they are 6-8 weeks old... the first month or so is learning to know your baby. and all they do for the first month is SLEEP! my son slept so much i was bored!!
Congratulation!
Just following your instinct when taking care of your baby.
Take every minutes with your baby with great pleasure. You may find some ideas about preparing things for a newborn in my blog here below.
Again, congratulation!
Labor isn't nearly as scary, hard, or painful as you think it's going to be.
I was absolutely terrified of going into labor, but as soon as you see your baby for the first time, you realize that every single bit of fear, pain, etc. was completely worth it!
Don't be pressured into having visitors or going out, and don't be afraid to accept help if you need it. Sleep and rest whenever you can cos you're going to be soo tired! Congrats :)
Do what works for you and your family. I had a hard time with this and tried to do what I thought I should do, rather than what worked for me. You are Mom, do what you think is right.
Trust your own judgment. Dont let others opinions (like the mil) get to you! It will be really hard at first but gets better and is soooo worth it. Congrats!!!
Read the book
'I refuse to raise a brat' by Mary lu Rhenner
ADVICE?! Im looking to apply for an Administrative Assistant, what would be some goof things to know before...
I apply? Like office programs/software...
What are their main duties?
Currently, I work all day on a headset and computer, would this be a big change for me?ADVICE?! Im looking to apply for an Administrative Assistant, what would be some goof things to know before...
all depends on the company. Im a current admin and I do payroll, hr, accounting, maintain all records, billing, general office duties Other companies dont require the admin's to do all of these.
Good things to know include any Microsoft application (i.e. Word, Excel, Access, Powerpoint)
Definetely list customer service skills.ADVICE?! Im looking to apply for an Administrative Assistant, what would be some goof things to know before...
Most AA should be proficient with programs such as MS Word, Excel, and creating spreadsheets. They do a heavy dose of typing various documents and documents. They will also plan schedules, flights, meetings for department heads. Also, the usual clerical duties which includes answering telephone. Good luck to you!
Just be there comming in everyday and keeping good hours is the 1# thing and have a can and will do approach.
Most companies like people that know many computer applications even if it doesn't necessarily apply to your direct position. Microsoft Word, Excel, Access and Powerpoint are always great ones to know very well. Being able to type fast with high accuracy is obviously something that all companies love. Showing that you can work independently as well as in a group or under private management would be great for someone who wants to be an admin assistant. Good luck!
What are their main duties?
Currently, I work all day on a headset and computer, would this be a big change for me?ADVICE?! Im looking to apply for an Administrative Assistant, what would be some goof things to know before...
all depends on the company. Im a current admin and I do payroll, hr, accounting, maintain all records, billing, general office duties Other companies dont require the admin's to do all of these.
Good things to know include any Microsoft application (i.e. Word, Excel, Access, Powerpoint)
Definetely list customer service skills.ADVICE?! Im looking to apply for an Administrative Assistant, what would be some goof things to know before...
Most AA should be proficient with programs such as MS Word, Excel, and creating spreadsheets. They do a heavy dose of typing various documents and documents. They will also plan schedules, flights, meetings for department heads. Also, the usual clerical duties which includes answering telephone. Good luck to you!
Just be there comming in everyday and keeping good hours is the 1# thing and have a can and will do approach.
Most companies like people that know many computer applications even if it doesn't necessarily apply to your direct position. Microsoft Word, Excel, Access and Powerpoint are always great ones to know very well. Being able to type fast with high accuracy is obviously something that all companies love. Showing that you can work independently as well as in a group or under private management would be great for someone who wants to be an admin assistant. Good luck!
What would be your one word of advice for me?
Don`t,,What would be your one word of advice for me?
Patience...
When you're in a hurry, you almost always miss out on all the enjoyment that life can bring. And also, you usually don't save any time in doing so... Watch traffic sometime. Notice all the cars going 50 in the 30 MPH zone and how you wind up right behind them at the next light almost every time? And how much less enjoyable is their drive? That works in may aspects of life.What would be your one word of advice for me?
You're not a man, but here's a nice little quote:
Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it.
~ Benjamin Franklin.
Love and Hope.
Don't drop the soap. Not one word, but the best advice I can give.
Always carry a spare battery
for the rabbit
';relax';
';Plastics';
Repent!
Lookout..!
Beware!
Swallow
don't EVER give your heart away
it'll be torn to shreds and thrown out with the rubbish
Enjoy.
believe...
beyourself
Don't have sex before Marriage.
Screw everyone else.
you dont become a failure until youre satisfied with being one.
BREATHMINT
LOL
Grow up
LOVE
Be the change you want to see in the world - Gandhi
Or breathe
If you're feeling froggy, leap!
don't waste time
try!
cheese
breathe
wait
love
go for it
Patience...
When you're in a hurry, you almost always miss out on all the enjoyment that life can bring. And also, you usually don't save any time in doing so... Watch traffic sometime. Notice all the cars going 50 in the 30 MPH zone and how you wind up right behind them at the next light almost every time? And how much less enjoyable is their drive? That works in may aspects of life.What would be your one word of advice for me?
You're not a man, but here's a nice little quote:
Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it.
~ Benjamin Franklin.
Love and Hope.
Don't drop the soap. Not one word, but the best advice I can give.
Always carry a spare battery
for the rabbit
';relax';
';Plastics';
Repent!
Lookout..!
Beware!
Swallow
don't EVER give your heart away
it'll be torn to shreds and thrown out with the rubbish
Enjoy.
believe...
beyourself
Don't have sex before Marriage.
Screw everyone else.
you dont become a failure until youre satisfied with being one.
BREATHMINT
LOL
Grow up
LOVE
Be the change you want to see in the world - Gandhi
Or breathe
If you're feeling froggy, leap!
don't waste time
try!
cheese
breathe
wait
love
go for it
How do i open up more?? (guys advice would be great, girls too!)?
i really think im ready for serious dating. ive been in some relationships but i havent been really serious or commited. what are some things i should do or w/e. so i can be a little more open and what do guys really want in a girl. like what qualities.How do i open up more?? (guys advice would be great, girls too!)?
I think it is not time why i say that because i was around about your age when i started dating not saying that you would do the same that i did. but some boy looks for a nice friend to talk to. some boy in this school not looking for that they just looking for loveHow do i open up more?? (guys advice would be great, girls too!)?
oops so confusing coz ....never dated with any girl......but before marriage i learn how can i live with my wife with understanding so i think understanding has potential to move forward..
take care.
know each other well before getting into a relationship, that way you'll be able to know what each one of u likes/doesnt like.. guys like girls who r natural, honest, sexy, loving, selfless, intelligent and they have to have a good sense of humor...
Be yourself. Be true and you won't fail. Anyone who wants someone other than you will stand out clear as not for you. Someone who shares your values and dreams will come along when the time is right, you can't rush it. If you do, you just wind up settling for second best and you are worth way more than that. Be patient. It will happen, and when it does, it will be so worth it.blackheads makeup reviews
I think it is not time why i say that because i was around about your age when i started dating not saying that you would do the same that i did. but some boy looks for a nice friend to talk to. some boy in this school not looking for that they just looking for loveHow do i open up more?? (guys advice would be great, girls too!)?
oops so confusing coz ....never dated with any girl......but before marriage i learn how can i live with my wife with understanding so i think understanding has potential to move forward..
take care.
know each other well before getting into a relationship, that way you'll be able to know what each one of u likes/doesnt like.. guys like girls who r natural, honest, sexy, loving, selfless, intelligent and they have to have a good sense of humor...
Be yourself. Be true and you won't fail. Anyone who wants someone other than you will stand out clear as not for you. Someone who shares your values and dreams will come along when the time is right, you can't rush it. If you do, you just wind up settling for second best and you are worth way more than that. Be patient. It will happen, and when it does, it will be so worth it.
ADHD child entering middle school need advice on what needs to be done before school starts?
My son is entering 6th grade and has an IEP in place from grade school, Im curious to see how this year will develope considering last year was horrible and IEP was not being followed at all. What should I do to get ready for this year and should I go to the school and get things squared away before the year starts and if so who should I speak to at the school first. Ive been told to go to the counselor first and just start a discussion and get the basics out of the way but I was told that this is not the way to go by the special ed teacher from last year.
I love my son dearly and do not want him to have the frustrations that he delt with last year with teachers and other students. He has a high IQ but was bringing home d's and f's which is not like him and his teacher was not helping to work with him at all. It took me going to the pricipal to get things straightened out (this is after numerous attempts to speak and work with teacher). Please help me decide a plan of action to help.ADHD child entering middle school need advice on what needs to be done before school starts?
I teach 2nd grade, but did my student teaching and board subbing in a 5th grade classroom a few years ago. We had a similar situation with a child, although I feel that we were more accommodating to the IEP than what you have described. Let me start by saying that this child had a much better experience in the middle school (same school system). He was in classes with completely new peers (from multiple elementary schools), he was getting up to move to new classrooms with each class change (which helped with attention), and he was with a good team of teachers that worked well with such students and with the guidance counselor.
I hate to go against the advice of the special ed teacher, because she may very well know what has happened to past kids at the middle school your son will go to. Schools, teachers, and counselors are of course all different wherever you go.
The advice that our counselor and principal gave the parents in the year end child study meeting was to indeed contact the counselor and then to contact the team of teachers when the teachers get back and are ready for parent interaction. Trying to push and see those teachers too early could create some frustrations (but ask the counselor what she/he thinks).
When you go to talk to the counselor and then the teachers make sure to not be on the attack. You are the best and most knowledgeable advocate for your child. Your question and recount of things is well written. You seemed frustrated by the way the elementary school handled things, yet open to ideas from the middle school team. Focus on that openness when you go in to meet with folks. If you have specifics on things that were difficult for your son in elementary school, explain those things, don't give general statements of how terrible things were and how they did nothing to help. Sometimes there are teachers and others that are friends between the two schools.
Have a list of things that work with your son at home, and things that may have worked at school. Let them know you are available and willing to help enforce things at home.
As you already know, teachers can make or break a year. Thankfully with middle school, you've got a team of teachers. Odds are, ADHD or not, most students do well with some teachers and not well with others. Your son won't be stuck all day in the situation he was in before. There will still be bumps in the road, D's and F's will come with certain subjects and teachers. But be sure to celebrate the A's and B's that come with classes and teachers that help your son succeed.
Good luck!ADHD child entering middle school need advice on what needs to be done before school starts?
First of all, they should have had a transition conference for your son at the end of the school year. This should have been when you all discussed what classes he would take. If that was not done, I would contact the middle school and find out who your son's teacher of record is going to be. I would set up a conference before school started and see if I could get a couple of his teachers there. The best time to do this is a couple of days before school starts and after the teachers have reported. One of the things that I would make certain of is that each teacher has a copy of the IEP. Keep in close contact with your son's teacher of record. He/she is the one that is your go between with the teachers. Make sure you stay on top of your son's assignments. Sometimes he won't tell you what he has to do, so make sure you contact the TOR to see that the assignments are done. Remember that as the parent, you can call a CC anytime you want. If you don't think that the school is doing what they are supposed to, call a CC. Find out if they have special needs advocates in your community and utilize their expertise. Above all, don't panic -- be organized.
I think it would be a good idea for you to get acquainted with the new teacher BEFORE she ever meets your son. This is an opportunity for you and the teacher to know each other as 2 people before either of you form misimpressions or opinions colored by any of your son's possible difficulties.
Approach the teacher by asking how you can help her help your son gain the most from his year under her tutelage. DO NOT start by criticizing last year's teacher, although it sounds like criticism was in order. Let the new teacher ';open that door'; before you recount past difficulties.
I don't think it would hurt to approach the counselor the same way. Paint a positive picture of your willingness to help but don't give the impression of meddling and interfering.
in my experience ( similar to your sons) i had a high IQ but was doing poorly in school. I was not challenged by my classes nor did i understand the consequences and repercussion that bringing home d and f would mean in my academic carreer.
if you can, try to make him understand the value of good grades and hard work toward those good grades. challenge him intellectually to do work that is above his grade and see if he gets motivated by it. cut out all sugars from his diet and keep the TV and video games to a minimum, make him chanel his energy on school projects.
see about getting him a mentor if the school has such a program. or hire one if you have the means to do so.
An IEP is a legal and binding document, I know because I am a teacher, so therefore if written, it must be followed or you can have a lawsuit on your hands. If I were you, I would contact the counselor prior to school starting, and make him/her aware of the problems you encountered with the previous year's teacher. I would then request a meeting between the counselor, the school psychologist and the teacher for the upcoming year teacher. Since you are his parent and this meeting would be your request they have to comply within 30 days upon your request. At this meeting, you would review the IEP and insure the modification and accommodations are in place for your son to be successful and allow you to voice your disappointment in the manner that things were handled last year as well as voice your the expectations you have of your son as well as the teachers. Perhaps, last year's teacher was new and inexperienced. I don't know if your son is on any medication, and I was not an advocate of medication for treating such, until I had a child. Then I became aware of just how much her inability to focus and calm was effecting her. It can be very frustrating for a child to have these issues that they are not capable of dealing with, so along with medication, I suggest counseling to help in behavior modification. I would consider the overall picture, your son must be feeling incredibly frustrated.
If you find this year, the school is unwilling to comply with the IEP, then I would call your state's coalition for children's rights. Believe we, they would gladly jump on this. I have seen it happen.
If your son has an IEP, there should've been a transition meeting at the end of the year at your elementary school where you meet the special education director from the junior high and help answer any questions that you may have.
I teach 6th grade (still elementary school in our district) and I've helped many students with IEPs transition into junior high. I would highly suggest having your son's IEP on hand (make many copies) and within the first few weeks of school, take the time to meet his teachers in person so they can put a face to a name and also hand the IEP to them. Sometimes, because junior high teachers deal with SO many students on a regular basis, they can't take the time to look through every students' files, but if you make them aware of his IEP, they'll usually be very receptive to it.
There should also be an IEP meeting with the special education department toward the beginning of the year, so make sure it gets scheduled. If you don't hear anything by mid-October, I suggest you call the school.
Interesting question. And, well thought out.
I've had many students who are labeled ADD and ADHD. I am also ADHD. Imagine that - a teacher with ADHD. It is actually as funny as it sounds.
I have had many days when other teachers would bring their students to my class (I teach Band and Elementary Music) and woefully explain that so-and-so has been quite a handful because they didn't have their medicine. My usual response is ';Don't worry about it, everything will be fine.'; And it has always been fine.
I have found that the primary ';trigger'; for problems with ADHD is lack of interest on the student's part.
I am NOT blaming the student. What I do is: Everyday, I do my best to make the lessons interesting and fun for all students.
And, that generally works about 95% of the time.
The other 5% of the times - when the student starts to be a little rambunctious - I openly and very briefly discuss ADHD. I remind the students that I also have it and that I have stopped taking my medicine for it. Then I'll ask the student, in question, to describe my behavior and demeanor. And, I then ask the student to give me one good reason why he/she doesn't try to behave like me - especially since neither one of us had taken medication that day.
Understand that when I do this, I do it as respectfully and politely as possible. I model the behavior that I expect form my students. I never act harshly towards them. I never have to raise my voice.
When their normal classroom teacher comes in to get the students, I always have a good report for them.
Of course, I have the benefit of having these students every year. I have their many of their relatives, and I talk with the parents.
As a side note: Talk with the band director and try to get your son in band - anything but drums (drums make most people to energetic to focus and stay on task). One thing band teaches is self-discipline. And, self-discipline is one of the best ways to begin to overcome ADHD. I have several ADHD students in my band and we've won the competition ';Sweepstakes'; Award each year for earning all ';Ones'; at contest. The ADHD students, in my class, no longer get into mischief in their other classes - even when they forget their medication.
What it all boils down to is this: We must all do our best to make education fun and interesting. Interest is the ';trigger.';
Feel free to print this and give a copy to your son's teachers and principal.
GOOD LUCK
I think you should either transfer him to a new school or keep trying to get a meeting with the teacher and pricipal. I don't know what you mean that he is having problems with other students because at my school the kids try to make friends with the AHDH kids and really like them. I guess you could try to home school him unless you have a job but I know that most parents can't home school because of various reasons but I want to wish you the best of luck.
ADHD children are often brilliant and regular teachers don't know what to do with them in a regular class. Special Ed teachers are often lacking also. An IEP is required for all children with a learning disability, but it is not an guarantee that your son will get a good education, one that is suited to him.
The frustrations that your son dealt with last year were minor compared with what will happen in middle school.
Talk to the Counselors first, then speak to the Principal, then teacher. Find out where they are coming from. Are they able and willing to make a special effort to educate your son. If you find that they are not capable of giving your son a good education then perhaps you will need to find another school that has a good solid track record for the Learning Challenged kids.
I run a school for the Learning Challenged kids and find that most of them come from public and private schools because these schools are not equipped to teach kids who have a different learning style. Don't stop talking to your son's teachers, counselors, or the principal. You are your son's best advacate for his education. Be totally involved in it and never stop no matter what others say. Your son has a right to a good education, so get in there and fight.
This may, or may not help; there are other schools of taught on the issue.
http://www.adhdfraud.org/
if it were me getting your son, i would appreciate a visit or phone call from you, before school starts. tell me, what qualified him for special education? having adhd does not necessarily mean he is eligible for services through special education. but if he has an iep, i would certainly go over it and see what was determined and why. did he receive services in his other school? was he in general ed and then resource? i doubt he was in an SDC. is he having trouble with teachers, other students, just specific behaviors?
i would start with the special ed teacher, just introduce yourself and tell them that you just want to make contact with the school and so they know that you are very involved in your sons education. you can also tell them of your concerns, but let school start and see what happens. things could be better. speak with the special teacher. it will make you feel better at least. they like parents to be involved and since its a new school, think positively!
I am in the same situation that you are and I went through every step there was last year with my child. Section 504 is a joke by the way.
I don't think there is any set format to follow unless the school has procedures.
The problem is that no matter weather those procedures are followed or not, the teachers are not trained and or educated on how to deal with ADD or ADHD. Two schools and several teachers later, there has been one good learning class for my child and that was because the teacher's own child was ADD and she understood how to communicate etc. with my child. That year was very rewarding for my child and enjoyable.
And I know there are people that feel the same way the teachers do when they read this that Add is nothing, and that it is the way the kid is brought up and the child's actions etc. are deliberate. Well, I have nothing to say to those people!
Good luck to you and if you come up with more answers than I do, please e-mail me.
I just want to add that for the mommy that suggested things be organized etc., I agree, but with an ADD or ADHD child you can organize and routine them all you want. I have done all the binders etc. and the problem is them remembering.
I disagree with the 125 student thing as an excuse for not being able to deal one on one with a student.
The teachers now a days have student aids, assistant teachers, room moms. etc. There are more people in any one of my daughters class rooms than I ever saw when I was in school.
The teachers that I deal with now adays are not working past 8am to 3pm. They don't take nothing home with them. They don't make phone calls on their personal time. They don't give up thier lunch hours.....there is no extra effort what so ever like there was when I was in Junior High or High School.
Shoot, they don't even grade their own papers anymore.
To those teachers reading this that do, God Bless you all!
Have him build routines now. Especially when it comes to organization. If he hasn't been already, I suggest getting him a binder with a section for each subject so that he stays organized. Also, he needs to be an advocate for himself. When you are talking about middle school you have to remember that one teacher may have as many as 125 kids and it's very difficult to remember which one is on an IEP for which reason (even though we're supposed to, we are only human-and easy to forget specifics of IEP's for that many kids). So he needs to be able to remind the teacher ';I can leave the room for a different testing environment'; or ';please help me make sure that I have all the materials I need for this assignment'; after he's gathered what he believes he needs (note that this statement is entirely different than ';can you get me the materials I need.';)
Going to the counselor probably isn't the way to go because they have very little say over special education. I would go to the sped coordinator and his specific case manager. I'm surprised you didn't have a transition meeting to make that bridge between elementary and middle.
Getting organizational routines and being his own best advocate (and then you being there to back him up) are going to be his best best for future success.
I love my son dearly and do not want him to have the frustrations that he delt with last year with teachers and other students. He has a high IQ but was bringing home d's and f's which is not like him and his teacher was not helping to work with him at all. It took me going to the pricipal to get things straightened out (this is after numerous attempts to speak and work with teacher). Please help me decide a plan of action to help.ADHD child entering middle school need advice on what needs to be done before school starts?
I teach 2nd grade, but did my student teaching and board subbing in a 5th grade classroom a few years ago. We had a similar situation with a child, although I feel that we were more accommodating to the IEP than what you have described. Let me start by saying that this child had a much better experience in the middle school (same school system). He was in classes with completely new peers (from multiple elementary schools), he was getting up to move to new classrooms with each class change (which helped with attention), and he was with a good team of teachers that worked well with such students and with the guidance counselor.
I hate to go against the advice of the special ed teacher, because she may very well know what has happened to past kids at the middle school your son will go to. Schools, teachers, and counselors are of course all different wherever you go.
The advice that our counselor and principal gave the parents in the year end child study meeting was to indeed contact the counselor and then to contact the team of teachers when the teachers get back and are ready for parent interaction. Trying to push and see those teachers too early could create some frustrations (but ask the counselor what she/he thinks).
When you go to talk to the counselor and then the teachers make sure to not be on the attack. You are the best and most knowledgeable advocate for your child. Your question and recount of things is well written. You seemed frustrated by the way the elementary school handled things, yet open to ideas from the middle school team. Focus on that openness when you go in to meet with folks. If you have specifics on things that were difficult for your son in elementary school, explain those things, don't give general statements of how terrible things were and how they did nothing to help. Sometimes there are teachers and others that are friends between the two schools.
Have a list of things that work with your son at home, and things that may have worked at school. Let them know you are available and willing to help enforce things at home.
As you already know, teachers can make or break a year. Thankfully with middle school, you've got a team of teachers. Odds are, ADHD or not, most students do well with some teachers and not well with others. Your son won't be stuck all day in the situation he was in before. There will still be bumps in the road, D's and F's will come with certain subjects and teachers. But be sure to celebrate the A's and B's that come with classes and teachers that help your son succeed.
Good luck!ADHD child entering middle school need advice on what needs to be done before school starts?
First of all, they should have had a transition conference for your son at the end of the school year. This should have been when you all discussed what classes he would take. If that was not done, I would contact the middle school and find out who your son's teacher of record is going to be. I would set up a conference before school started and see if I could get a couple of his teachers there. The best time to do this is a couple of days before school starts and after the teachers have reported. One of the things that I would make certain of is that each teacher has a copy of the IEP. Keep in close contact with your son's teacher of record. He/she is the one that is your go between with the teachers. Make sure you stay on top of your son's assignments. Sometimes he won't tell you what he has to do, so make sure you contact the TOR to see that the assignments are done. Remember that as the parent, you can call a CC anytime you want. If you don't think that the school is doing what they are supposed to, call a CC. Find out if they have special needs advocates in your community and utilize their expertise. Above all, don't panic -- be organized.
I think it would be a good idea for you to get acquainted with the new teacher BEFORE she ever meets your son. This is an opportunity for you and the teacher to know each other as 2 people before either of you form misimpressions or opinions colored by any of your son's possible difficulties.
Approach the teacher by asking how you can help her help your son gain the most from his year under her tutelage. DO NOT start by criticizing last year's teacher, although it sounds like criticism was in order. Let the new teacher ';open that door'; before you recount past difficulties.
I don't think it would hurt to approach the counselor the same way. Paint a positive picture of your willingness to help but don't give the impression of meddling and interfering.
in my experience ( similar to your sons) i had a high IQ but was doing poorly in school. I was not challenged by my classes nor did i understand the consequences and repercussion that bringing home d and f would mean in my academic carreer.
if you can, try to make him understand the value of good grades and hard work toward those good grades. challenge him intellectually to do work that is above his grade and see if he gets motivated by it. cut out all sugars from his diet and keep the TV and video games to a minimum, make him chanel his energy on school projects.
see about getting him a mentor if the school has such a program. or hire one if you have the means to do so.
An IEP is a legal and binding document, I know because I am a teacher, so therefore if written, it must be followed or you can have a lawsuit on your hands. If I were you, I would contact the counselor prior to school starting, and make him/her aware of the problems you encountered with the previous year's teacher. I would then request a meeting between the counselor, the school psychologist and the teacher for the upcoming year teacher. Since you are his parent and this meeting would be your request they have to comply within 30 days upon your request. At this meeting, you would review the IEP and insure the modification and accommodations are in place for your son to be successful and allow you to voice your disappointment in the manner that things were handled last year as well as voice your the expectations you have of your son as well as the teachers. Perhaps, last year's teacher was new and inexperienced. I don't know if your son is on any medication, and I was not an advocate of medication for treating such, until I had a child. Then I became aware of just how much her inability to focus and calm was effecting her. It can be very frustrating for a child to have these issues that they are not capable of dealing with, so along with medication, I suggest counseling to help in behavior modification. I would consider the overall picture, your son must be feeling incredibly frustrated.
If you find this year, the school is unwilling to comply with the IEP, then I would call your state's coalition for children's rights. Believe we, they would gladly jump on this. I have seen it happen.
If your son has an IEP, there should've been a transition meeting at the end of the year at your elementary school where you meet the special education director from the junior high and help answer any questions that you may have.
I teach 6th grade (still elementary school in our district) and I've helped many students with IEPs transition into junior high. I would highly suggest having your son's IEP on hand (make many copies) and within the first few weeks of school, take the time to meet his teachers in person so they can put a face to a name and also hand the IEP to them. Sometimes, because junior high teachers deal with SO many students on a regular basis, they can't take the time to look through every students' files, but if you make them aware of his IEP, they'll usually be very receptive to it.
There should also be an IEP meeting with the special education department toward the beginning of the year, so make sure it gets scheduled. If you don't hear anything by mid-October, I suggest you call the school.
Interesting question. And, well thought out.
I've had many students who are labeled ADD and ADHD. I am also ADHD. Imagine that - a teacher with ADHD. It is actually as funny as it sounds.
I have had many days when other teachers would bring their students to my class (I teach Band and Elementary Music) and woefully explain that so-and-so has been quite a handful because they didn't have their medicine. My usual response is ';Don't worry about it, everything will be fine.'; And it has always been fine.
I have found that the primary ';trigger'; for problems with ADHD is lack of interest on the student's part.
I am NOT blaming the student. What I do is: Everyday, I do my best to make the lessons interesting and fun for all students.
And, that generally works about 95% of the time.
The other 5% of the times - when the student starts to be a little rambunctious - I openly and very briefly discuss ADHD. I remind the students that I also have it and that I have stopped taking my medicine for it. Then I'll ask the student, in question, to describe my behavior and demeanor. And, I then ask the student to give me one good reason why he/she doesn't try to behave like me - especially since neither one of us had taken medication that day.
Understand that when I do this, I do it as respectfully and politely as possible. I model the behavior that I expect form my students. I never act harshly towards them. I never have to raise my voice.
When their normal classroom teacher comes in to get the students, I always have a good report for them.
Of course, I have the benefit of having these students every year. I have their many of their relatives, and I talk with the parents.
As a side note: Talk with the band director and try to get your son in band - anything but drums (drums make most people to energetic to focus and stay on task). One thing band teaches is self-discipline. And, self-discipline is one of the best ways to begin to overcome ADHD. I have several ADHD students in my band and we've won the competition ';Sweepstakes'; Award each year for earning all ';Ones'; at contest. The ADHD students, in my class, no longer get into mischief in their other classes - even when they forget their medication.
What it all boils down to is this: We must all do our best to make education fun and interesting. Interest is the ';trigger.';
Feel free to print this and give a copy to your son's teachers and principal.
GOOD LUCK
I think you should either transfer him to a new school or keep trying to get a meeting with the teacher and pricipal. I don't know what you mean that he is having problems with other students because at my school the kids try to make friends with the AHDH kids and really like them. I guess you could try to home school him unless you have a job but I know that most parents can't home school because of various reasons but I want to wish you the best of luck.
ADHD children are often brilliant and regular teachers don't know what to do with them in a regular class. Special Ed teachers are often lacking also. An IEP is required for all children with a learning disability, but it is not an guarantee that your son will get a good education, one that is suited to him.
The frustrations that your son dealt with last year were minor compared with what will happen in middle school.
Talk to the Counselors first, then speak to the Principal, then teacher. Find out where they are coming from. Are they able and willing to make a special effort to educate your son. If you find that they are not capable of giving your son a good education then perhaps you will need to find another school that has a good solid track record for the Learning Challenged kids.
I run a school for the Learning Challenged kids and find that most of them come from public and private schools because these schools are not equipped to teach kids who have a different learning style. Don't stop talking to your son's teachers, counselors, or the principal. You are your son's best advacate for his education. Be totally involved in it and never stop no matter what others say. Your son has a right to a good education, so get in there and fight.
This may, or may not help; there are other schools of taught on the issue.
http://www.adhdfraud.org/
if it were me getting your son, i would appreciate a visit or phone call from you, before school starts. tell me, what qualified him for special education? having adhd does not necessarily mean he is eligible for services through special education. but if he has an iep, i would certainly go over it and see what was determined and why. did he receive services in his other school? was he in general ed and then resource? i doubt he was in an SDC. is he having trouble with teachers, other students, just specific behaviors?
i would start with the special ed teacher, just introduce yourself and tell them that you just want to make contact with the school and so they know that you are very involved in your sons education. you can also tell them of your concerns, but let school start and see what happens. things could be better. speak with the special teacher. it will make you feel better at least. they like parents to be involved and since its a new school, think positively!
I am in the same situation that you are and I went through every step there was last year with my child. Section 504 is a joke by the way.
I don't think there is any set format to follow unless the school has procedures.
The problem is that no matter weather those procedures are followed or not, the teachers are not trained and or educated on how to deal with ADD or ADHD. Two schools and several teachers later, there has been one good learning class for my child and that was because the teacher's own child was ADD and she understood how to communicate etc. with my child. That year was very rewarding for my child and enjoyable.
And I know there are people that feel the same way the teachers do when they read this that Add is nothing, and that it is the way the kid is brought up and the child's actions etc. are deliberate. Well, I have nothing to say to those people!
Good luck to you and if you come up with more answers than I do, please e-mail me.
I just want to add that for the mommy that suggested things be organized etc., I agree, but with an ADD or ADHD child you can organize and routine them all you want. I have done all the binders etc. and the problem is them remembering.
I disagree with the 125 student thing as an excuse for not being able to deal one on one with a student.
The teachers now a days have student aids, assistant teachers, room moms. etc. There are more people in any one of my daughters class rooms than I ever saw when I was in school.
The teachers that I deal with now adays are not working past 8am to 3pm. They don't take nothing home with them. They don't make phone calls on their personal time. They don't give up thier lunch hours.....there is no extra effort what so ever like there was when I was in Junior High or High School.
Shoot, they don't even grade their own papers anymore.
To those teachers reading this that do, God Bless you all!
Have him build routines now. Especially when it comes to organization. If he hasn't been already, I suggest getting him a binder with a section for each subject so that he stays organized. Also, he needs to be an advocate for himself. When you are talking about middle school you have to remember that one teacher may have as many as 125 kids and it's very difficult to remember which one is on an IEP for which reason (even though we're supposed to, we are only human-and easy to forget specifics of IEP's for that many kids). So he needs to be able to remind the teacher ';I can leave the room for a different testing environment'; or ';please help me make sure that I have all the materials I need for this assignment'; after he's gathered what he believes he needs (note that this statement is entirely different than ';can you get me the materials I need.';)
Going to the counselor probably isn't the way to go because they have very little say over special education. I would go to the sped coordinator and his specific case manager. I'm surprised you didn't have a transition meeting to make that bridge between elementary and middle.
Getting organizational routines and being his own best advocate (and then you being there to back him up) are going to be his best best for future success.
Someone special is leaving for Qatar Airways to be a female cabin crew? Any advice?
Is it safe there? How is life there? How about being abused or harasssed?
Dont get me wrong please, i am just asking for any advice, i hope a Qatar Airways employee gets to notice this.
How about being home sick? How about the culture of female cabin crew in Qatar Airways?
Any answer is highly appreciated!Someone special is leaving for Qatar Airways to be a female cabin crew? Any advice?
Qatar is first and foremost very safe. She will likely earn a very good living - tax free! The one thing I would caution her on is the fact that since she is a Western Woman, she will likely be despised by the local Women and hit on by the Men. The stereo types of Western Women are absolutely herendous. I lived in Egypt for two years, my American girlfriend was always getting grabbed, and groped by these young Egyptian men, and the Egyptian women just thought she was a slut. Just tell your friend to keep her witts about her.
Best of luck!Someone special is leaving for Qatar Airways to be a female cabin crew? Any advice?
All I have to say is tell him/her not to touch the chicken.....ever. lol. Qatar is not a very bad place. He/She should be fine. I don't know anything about the airways though. Sorry
Dont get me wrong please, i am just asking for any advice, i hope a Qatar Airways employee gets to notice this.
How about being home sick? How about the culture of female cabin crew in Qatar Airways?
Any answer is highly appreciated!Someone special is leaving for Qatar Airways to be a female cabin crew? Any advice?
Qatar is first and foremost very safe. She will likely earn a very good living - tax free! The one thing I would caution her on is the fact that since she is a Western Woman, she will likely be despised by the local Women and hit on by the Men. The stereo types of Western Women are absolutely herendous. I lived in Egypt for two years, my American girlfriend was always getting grabbed, and groped by these young Egyptian men, and the Egyptian women just thought she was a slut. Just tell your friend to keep her witts about her.
Best of luck!Someone special is leaving for Qatar Airways to be a female cabin crew? Any advice?
All I have to say is tell him/her not to touch the chicken.....ever. lol. Qatar is not a very bad place. He/She should be fine. I don't know anything about the airways though. Sorry
There are many married men who think marriage is hell (many give the advice: if you wanna be happy,don't marry?
is it because they married the girl they didn't love and just one to settle down??There are many married men who think marriage is hell (many give the advice: if you wanna be happy,don't marry?
Many MEN choose to marry because THEY love the girl. Many girls are willing to marry a man who works hard at loving THEM.
The result is many marriages where the Man loves the Woman way, way more then she loves him. The men quickly learn this is truly HELL. A woman who does not love you is typically emotionally abusive through ACTION and INACTION. The action is constantly being critical which makes you think you suck. The INACTION is denying you sex - which makes you feel unloved.
My wife and I got off to a bit of a rough start. We fixed it though. She taught me to be more lovable, I taught her to be less bitc*y. Part of that was I told her I would leave her if she really felt she deserved someone better.
A lot of these men get confused and think that by being more ';helpful'; around the house their wives will love them more. LOL. Yes your wife is greatful if you are a helpful guy. And yes she will be resentful if you don't do your fair share. But NO AMOUNT of being a SUPER MAID is going to make a wife love you.There are many married men who think marriage is hell (many give the advice: if you wanna be happy,don't marry?
A famous author ( Bradshaw ) once said ';Show me a single man, then I'll show you a happy man';. Men and women are human beings. As with all human beings, we change over the years, having our own characteristics that come with it over time as well. Marriage is work in not only accepting and adjusting with these changes, but also the pressures of every day living ( work, kids, mortgage, etc.)
That may be some of the men who have been divorced 3x and remarried again. In that case, he needs to look for his answers in a mirror. There are some men and women who cannot grasp the compromise and communication in their marriages and only care to do childish and selfish things that exclude their spouses. If a married man is giving you that advice, ask him to explain why he feels that way. Not all men do.
hear this from a married woman, it is that we married the wrong person... I believe you can make a marriage work but you have to not break the golden rules.... never ever deny sex.... never ever forget to say you love them in the morning and before you fall asleep and just because during the day they pop in your head at work, even though they never left your mind... send them sexy notes so that when you walk though the door they want to rip your clothes off.... lol...marriage is not all about sex but it keep the marriage alive and well... but it is also about respect...love and honor each other every single day and night and ever single second of the day.... and if she can't do that or you can't then I would not even bother getting married!! because it will end up with two lonely people who can't stand the site of each other!!! and never cheat on her if she is at home trying to make your life the best ever...cause one day you might wake up and find her not next to you.... or you will wake up and find her not loving you....loving someone else, and it will not be her fault~
not only men feel this way. I'm a woman and I feel this way. But I do tell folks that MY experience was bad, n also, I've heard n seen many like mine, so that's y I'm speaking. But most just seem to hear marriage is bad, so stay single. The appropriate q is this, y did u marry? They were single once, n then they married, n yrs later after the love wore off, n the kids came, they're not happy anymore. They've known others in their shoes prior to marriage...so y'd they take the plunge against advice? Life is different for everyone, this is y it PAYS to KNOW urself, n stand ur ground. Because many will try to tell u what they want for u. But in reality, it's what they THINK would be best for u, based on what THEY know, or what THEY wished they had done. So the saying hold's true, to thine own self be true.
I';ve seen ppl tell me to get re-married. Y? They're marriage is wonderful. They found mr. perfect for them, n they think my ex was just a crater in the bumpy road of life. They want me to pull myself out. Others who've been where I'm at, tell me to stay single, for I'll be happy. See, u only give advice based on what u see, hear, n know...based on ur experience n observation. It's not always that misery loves company, it might be that they dont want to see u make the same mistake they did, but they dont KNOW how it will turn out for u...n that's what they're forgetting. Most things in life are shades of color, not black n white like ppl would like to bellieve.
Marriages today are much worse off, because of several things.
1. Society has lessened the worth and value placed on marriage. Basically, morals have been destroyed as have the natural roles of men and women. People do not care about anything but what they want, how they see things and so forth. If they cannot have their own way, they would rather leave, instead of facing the fact that maybe they are wrong or not working to make things good.
2. Women have been sold a bill of goods and men are paying the bill. Women have a warped view of what a man is suppose to be, what her role in marriage is, etc. For the most part, if the woman is not happy your life is going to be hell, even if her unhappiness is her own doing or of her own making. Many women are far to unrealistic and they demand that you fulfill what their idea of marriage is, no matter how unrealistic it may be.
3. I will advise that you visit a site. www.nomarriage.com. I suggest this not to be mean, not because I have a vested interest in the site or anything like that. I say it because there is a lot of information there that you would be wise to see and consider before you ever contemplate getting married. The information on that site may help you understand why many men feel as they do. I give you one example of information on the site. You may laugh. Go ahead. Below is exactly how many men find their lives being torn up and for the most part, there is little they can do about it. Guys are just getting fed up and they are trying to tell you how things can be in order to help you in the future.
Example:
Are you a loser?
Let's translate ';loser'; from women-speak into English.
';Loser'; in woman-speak simply means a man who is smart enough to do things that are in HIS best interest.
* You don't spend your hard-earned money on women - you are a loser
* You expect regular sex - you are a loser
* You are not interested in marriage - you are a loser
* You don't want to be stuck with kids - you are a loser
* You don't want to slave away 60 hours a week so a woman can buy a new SUV every year - you are a loser
* You prefer South American women who treat you better - you are a HUUGE LOOOSER
The alternative to ';loser'; is a pussyfied man, or simply a p ussy. A puss yfied man does what a woman wants - he is a docile schmuck who slaves away at work and pays her bills, lets her do what she wants, does not tell her when she is wrong and does not pesters her for sex. Another words, he is an ideal husband.
';you wanna be happy...?';
OK, plan it.
Got thousands of years of human living to pick from. Got thousands, millions of great books to get the best from. Have psychiatrists, hookers, and ministers to talk to so you get the best things for you.
So why has everybody else in the history of men ignored all that?
';you wanna be happy...?';
We pick.
We see. We think. We pick.
You think we're pickin' because of happy? No.
Something else goes on. Look at your own Mom and Dad. No, really. Look hard. You really think happy put them together? You lived there. You know better.
We be more than happy. It's a lousy analogy...but remember in The Matrix when the computer said they tried making the ditigal world a paradise and people died because they couldn't handle it. Read Twain's confusion at living for a little while in Hawaii, in a paradise he couldn't understand or absorb.
Something else goes on. Marriage is about much more than happy. Logical people wouldn't start something so serious with a 50% sadness rate. Even higher for second marriages.
Married people are doing more than happy. They're having real life. A real relationship means you can't pretend you don't suck or that they don't. You have to be better or you are done. Period.
Is getting to better hell? Sometimes, yeah. For sure. But then you're both better. Kinda makes up for being sucky. Not completely, but mostly. It's not some kinda paradise. We got kicked outta that for being sucky. But it's OK, even pretty good a lotta times.
yea it takes to make a marriage work. A lot of patience and love for the other person. Communication is the key , understanding each others needs and wants. I can say my marriage is a roller coaster but i would not change it for anyone else. Running is not an option for me. Those vows is what keeps my marriage going. Also i try not to just think of self i work on the self and try a different approach this way we understand each other.
You cannot let another person or gender mold and shape your ideals on marriage. Most are not happy because they chose not to be. Marriage is hard work and no one really wants to work anymore. If they were so unhappy they would not still be married. The heart wants what it wants period.
Men can only speak for themselves, and not generalize for all of us. If the ones that say this are correct, then who do they have to blame for living in hell?
After we end our lives, then God will decide if we go to Heaven or Hell. Seems rather stupid to me that someone on Earth would choose to live in hell.
My advice...only listen to the advice you want to hear.
Here's the truth: Marriage and being with the same person gets very old...very quick....no matter how hot that broad is.
And guess what...most women get the frump on after squezzing out a few kids.....would you be looking foward to bumping uglies with a frumpinator? I think not.
Thus, dude needs side action and marriage sucks.
Any marriage can be hell depending on how you treat it and cherish it. Those who ';live'; in their hell are those who never put the work into it to make it something good. You live in what you build.
Marriage is a piece of cake when you KNOW HOW to make it work!
http://www.google.com/search?client=oper鈥?/a>
It takes two to make a marriage work, so if someone is complaining, it's probably the one who isn't putting anything into his marriage?
They didn't go into the marriage knowing what it's like or what's needed. Overall some people are just unhappy. Marriage did wonders for me. I've never been happier.
They're usually in sucky marriages, which is why they tell others to not get married.
cause they marry to young and people change as they mature.
Many MEN choose to marry because THEY love the girl. Many girls are willing to marry a man who works hard at loving THEM.
The result is many marriages where the Man loves the Woman way, way more then she loves him. The men quickly learn this is truly HELL. A woman who does not love you is typically emotionally abusive through ACTION and INACTION. The action is constantly being critical which makes you think you suck. The INACTION is denying you sex - which makes you feel unloved.
My wife and I got off to a bit of a rough start. We fixed it though. She taught me to be more lovable, I taught her to be less bitc*y. Part of that was I told her I would leave her if she really felt she deserved someone better.
A lot of these men get confused and think that by being more ';helpful'; around the house their wives will love them more. LOL. Yes your wife is greatful if you are a helpful guy. And yes she will be resentful if you don't do your fair share. But NO AMOUNT of being a SUPER MAID is going to make a wife love you.There are many married men who think marriage is hell (many give the advice: if you wanna be happy,don't marry?
A famous author ( Bradshaw ) once said ';Show me a single man, then I'll show you a happy man';. Men and women are human beings. As with all human beings, we change over the years, having our own characteristics that come with it over time as well. Marriage is work in not only accepting and adjusting with these changes, but also the pressures of every day living ( work, kids, mortgage, etc.)
That may be some of the men who have been divorced 3x and remarried again. In that case, he needs to look for his answers in a mirror. There are some men and women who cannot grasp the compromise and communication in their marriages and only care to do childish and selfish things that exclude their spouses. If a married man is giving you that advice, ask him to explain why he feels that way. Not all men do.
hear this from a married woman, it is that we married the wrong person... I believe you can make a marriage work but you have to not break the golden rules.... never ever deny sex.... never ever forget to say you love them in the morning and before you fall asleep and just because during the day they pop in your head at work, even though they never left your mind... send them sexy notes so that when you walk though the door they want to rip your clothes off.... lol...marriage is not all about sex but it keep the marriage alive and well... but it is also about respect...love and honor each other every single day and night and ever single second of the day.... and if she can't do that or you can't then I would not even bother getting married!! because it will end up with two lonely people who can't stand the site of each other!!! and never cheat on her if she is at home trying to make your life the best ever...cause one day you might wake up and find her not next to you.... or you will wake up and find her not loving you....loving someone else, and it will not be her fault~
not only men feel this way. I'm a woman and I feel this way. But I do tell folks that MY experience was bad, n also, I've heard n seen many like mine, so that's y I'm speaking. But most just seem to hear marriage is bad, so stay single. The appropriate q is this, y did u marry? They were single once, n then they married, n yrs later after the love wore off, n the kids came, they're not happy anymore. They've known others in their shoes prior to marriage...so y'd they take the plunge against advice? Life is different for everyone, this is y it PAYS to KNOW urself, n stand ur ground. Because many will try to tell u what they want for u. But in reality, it's what they THINK would be best for u, based on what THEY know, or what THEY wished they had done. So the saying hold's true, to thine own self be true.
I';ve seen ppl tell me to get re-married. Y? They're marriage is wonderful. They found mr. perfect for them, n they think my ex was just a crater in the bumpy road of life. They want me to pull myself out. Others who've been where I'm at, tell me to stay single, for I'll be happy. See, u only give advice based on what u see, hear, n know...based on ur experience n observation. It's not always that misery loves company, it might be that they dont want to see u make the same mistake they did, but they dont KNOW how it will turn out for u...n that's what they're forgetting. Most things in life are shades of color, not black n white like ppl would like to bellieve.
Marriages today are much worse off, because of several things.
1. Society has lessened the worth and value placed on marriage. Basically, morals have been destroyed as have the natural roles of men and women. People do not care about anything but what they want, how they see things and so forth. If they cannot have their own way, they would rather leave, instead of facing the fact that maybe they are wrong or not working to make things good.
2. Women have been sold a bill of goods and men are paying the bill. Women have a warped view of what a man is suppose to be, what her role in marriage is, etc. For the most part, if the woman is not happy your life is going to be hell, even if her unhappiness is her own doing or of her own making. Many women are far to unrealistic and they demand that you fulfill what their idea of marriage is, no matter how unrealistic it may be.
3. I will advise that you visit a site. www.nomarriage.com. I suggest this not to be mean, not because I have a vested interest in the site or anything like that. I say it because there is a lot of information there that you would be wise to see and consider before you ever contemplate getting married. The information on that site may help you understand why many men feel as they do. I give you one example of information on the site. You may laugh. Go ahead. Below is exactly how many men find their lives being torn up and for the most part, there is little they can do about it. Guys are just getting fed up and they are trying to tell you how things can be in order to help you in the future.
Example:
Are you a loser?
Let's translate ';loser'; from women-speak into English.
';Loser'; in woman-speak simply means a man who is smart enough to do things that are in HIS best interest.
* You don't spend your hard-earned money on women - you are a loser
* You expect regular sex - you are a loser
* You are not interested in marriage - you are a loser
* You don't want to be stuck with kids - you are a loser
* You don't want to slave away 60 hours a week so a woman can buy a new SUV every year - you are a loser
* You prefer South American women who treat you better - you are a HUUGE LOOOSER
The alternative to ';loser'; is a pussyfied man, or simply a p ussy. A puss yfied man does what a woman wants - he is a docile schmuck who slaves away at work and pays her bills, lets her do what she wants, does not tell her when she is wrong and does not pesters her for sex. Another words, he is an ideal husband.
';you wanna be happy...?';
OK, plan it.
Got thousands of years of human living to pick from. Got thousands, millions of great books to get the best from. Have psychiatrists, hookers, and ministers to talk to so you get the best things for you.
So why has everybody else in the history of men ignored all that?
';you wanna be happy...?';
We pick.
We see. We think. We pick.
You think we're pickin' because of happy? No.
Something else goes on. Look at your own Mom and Dad. No, really. Look hard. You really think happy put them together? You lived there. You know better.
We be more than happy. It's a lousy analogy...but remember in The Matrix when the computer said they tried making the ditigal world a paradise and people died because they couldn't handle it. Read Twain's confusion at living for a little while in Hawaii, in a paradise he couldn't understand or absorb.
Something else goes on. Marriage is about much more than happy. Logical people wouldn't start something so serious with a 50% sadness rate. Even higher for second marriages.
Married people are doing more than happy. They're having real life. A real relationship means you can't pretend you don't suck or that they don't. You have to be better or you are done. Period.
Is getting to better hell? Sometimes, yeah. For sure. But then you're both better. Kinda makes up for being sucky. Not completely, but mostly. It's not some kinda paradise. We got kicked outta that for being sucky. But it's OK, even pretty good a lotta times.
yea it takes to make a marriage work. A lot of patience and love for the other person. Communication is the key , understanding each others needs and wants. I can say my marriage is a roller coaster but i would not change it for anyone else. Running is not an option for me. Those vows is what keeps my marriage going. Also i try not to just think of self i work on the self and try a different approach this way we understand each other.
You cannot let another person or gender mold and shape your ideals on marriage. Most are not happy because they chose not to be. Marriage is hard work and no one really wants to work anymore. If they were so unhappy they would not still be married. The heart wants what it wants period.
Men can only speak for themselves, and not generalize for all of us. If the ones that say this are correct, then who do they have to blame for living in hell?
After we end our lives, then God will decide if we go to Heaven or Hell. Seems rather stupid to me that someone on Earth would choose to live in hell.
My advice...only listen to the advice you want to hear.
Here's the truth: Marriage and being with the same person gets very old...very quick....no matter how hot that broad is.
And guess what...most women get the frump on after squezzing out a few kids.....would you be looking foward to bumping uglies with a frumpinator? I think not.
Thus, dude needs side action and marriage sucks.
Any marriage can be hell depending on how you treat it and cherish it. Those who ';live'; in their hell are those who never put the work into it to make it something good. You live in what you build.
Marriage is a piece of cake when you KNOW HOW to make it work!
http://www.google.com/search?client=oper鈥?/a>
It takes two to make a marriage work, so if someone is complaining, it's probably the one who isn't putting anything into his marriage?
They didn't go into the marriage knowing what it's like or what's needed. Overall some people are just unhappy. Marriage did wonders for me. I've never been happier.
They're usually in sucky marriages, which is why they tell others to not get married.
cause they marry to young and people change as they mature.
I want to be a firefighter but the pay is horrible. Any help/advice? preferably from a Firefighter?
Im really excited to do this job, but i don't wanna have to live from paycheck to paycheck. please help. im willing to take any advice or helpI want to be a firefighter but the pay is horrible. Any help/advice? preferably from a Firefighter?
I don't know were you live, but here in Canada firefighters make anywhere from 60 to 90K a year. But if it really is a low paying job were you live, you should still take it. I was told as a kid to do a job you like and you will end up making more money at it. If you like your job you will perform better, simple.I want to be a firefighter but the pay is horrible. Any help/advice? preferably from a Firefighter?
Well in Canada, Ontario specifically, it is a very hard job to get. Any applicant who was hired within the past 5 years more then likely has a bachelors degree in Fire Science and a college diploma to go along with it. Even if you have the required education it is a very difficult job to get.
Where do you get your information?
The median starting salary for a firefighter in the US is over $36,000, with no significant job qualifications aside from physical endurance. The overall median is over $45,000, with veterans in major cities at or near six figures.
I can't think of many better-paying blue-collar occupations.
i think firefighters only get 2.50 an hour
I don't know were you live, but here in Canada firefighters make anywhere from 60 to 90K a year. But if it really is a low paying job were you live, you should still take it. I was told as a kid to do a job you like and you will end up making more money at it. If you like your job you will perform better, simple.I want to be a firefighter but the pay is horrible. Any help/advice? preferably from a Firefighter?
Well in Canada, Ontario specifically, it is a very hard job to get. Any applicant who was hired within the past 5 years more then likely has a bachelors degree in Fire Science and a college diploma to go along with it. Even if you have the required education it is a very difficult job to get.
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Where do you get your information?
The median starting salary for a firefighter in the US is over $36,000, with no significant job qualifications aside from physical endurance. The overall median is over $45,000, with veterans in major cities at or near six figures.
I can't think of many better-paying blue-collar occupations.
i think firefighters only get 2.50 an hour
If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
im sixteen %26amp; i was wondering if you had any life advice..everyone who is older always says ';i wish i knew that when i was 16'; so can you tell me stuff lol.idk if you get what i mean though.It can be on school friends life money family ANYTHING!If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
You have your whole life in front of you. Focus on your education and have enjoy your teenage years. Don't take anything for granted. Make time for God in your life as well. ----------------------------------------…If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
1. Don't go to college right away unless you can pay for it. But get good grades in high school regardless.
2. Go to college to learn about what you want to learn about, not necessarily to start a career. Alot of people have jobs that are completely different than their degrees
3. The nerdy guys are usually the most interesting guys
4. Four years from now high school won't matter
5. Use protection, and have sex only as often as you're comfortable with. Don't assume that a guy will stick around or like you just because you let him in the, um, happy zone.
6. Somewhat related to #5 but guys will not change, especially as they get older. No, not even for you.
7. Have a good time, don't sweat the small stuff, and any other myriad of info you can also get from a motivational poster with a cat on it.
Think about the choices you make now. If you think about it all you really have to do is ask yourself one question. In ten years, will I look back at this event and say ';wow, I wish I had done that ';or will you look at the event and say';wow, I wish I hadn't done that.';
To be a little more specific and example would be cigarettes. In ten years when you might be trying to quit smoking because they are so expensive and probably completely illegal by then how would you answer that question? Or will you be in a dead end job going ';Wow, I wish I had stayed in school.';
So the best advice is to just take a minute to think about how your actions now may change your life later and you will usually find the right path on your own. Most of the people who say that didn't take time to think about the results of the actions they took (or didn't take.)
well, im 20. I am glad to not be 16 anymore. It is so nice being in college and out of high school. just do well in school so that you can go to a good college and not be at a junior college like me. Also, choose your friends carefully. i have been backstabbed so many times by my ';Best friends'; most of them have hooked up with or tried to hook up wiht my boyfriend then harass and spread rumors about me. i was given the advice to have one or two very close gf;s and that as you get older you lose most of your friends and you only end up with the one or two who will stick with you forever. AND use a condom. dont get HPV look up HPV.1 out of 2 men have it. 8 out of 10 women have it. it causes cervical cancer. get the shot NOW. i wish i knew that when i was 16...
Be aware of the fact you don't know as much about life as you think you do. And people trying to talk you out of doing something are usually right. But you can never admit that. Be patient in most everything that's important in life, you have two outcomes, you screw everything up and you get somebody to rescue you. or you really follow that little bit of doubt you are trying to bury, and don't do it to begin with. Most people have a hunch or the feeling somethings not quite right , You can't lose anything from following the hunch.
don't take anyone in your life for granted, because they are there one day, and gone the next
Also... don't take school for granted either, make the most of it, because as soon as you leave you wish you hadn't... and dont take your friends for granted... enoy every waking moment you are around them, life is too short to fight
Life is not all about having sex. Kids every day are having sex when they don't even know what it is. Don't be too much in a hurry to ';grow up.'; Look towards the positives of everything and don't get too upset when things turn out badly for you, because being angry never solves a problem. When you want something bad enough, you will get it eventually, so instead of fearing the bad, desire the good. Don't do what everyone else is doing and don't fall under peer pressure. Only do something when YOU TRULY want to do it, which includes sex, drugs, and drinking. If you want to do it, then do it, but be prepared for whatever consequences come after. I'm not saying there will be, but you never know. Live life optimistically. Keep an open mind about everything and don't be judgmental. Be willing to learn new things and try something new. Learn to live and live to learn.
If you want happiness and you think of happiness, you will have it. ';Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.'; W. Clement Stone
Its not as bad as you think
Even though you think you have no freedom, you DO and this IS the best time of life
Love your body and skin now, even if you hate it you will realise when you are older how good it was
Take care of your skin, dont over tan, moisturize.If you dont you might look like a leather boot not sexy ever.
Hes not worth it if he makes you crazy/cry/isn't interested.
Say no to drugs that you dont know what they are, if you dont know exactly what it is dont touch it
You know that thing that is so unfair and you hate your parents for?
You probably wont remember in 6 years
Unless they are very crap your parents DO want you to have fun, they just want you to be safe so dont be too harsh on them
Act your age, be you, enjoy life while your young. Dont grow up so fast just try to make your experiences as memories and not mistakes or regrets. Have fun live it up but also be smart with it. Choose your friends wisely and realize that everyone is not your friend because we have people that are out to use you and just be a hater surround yourself with real people not people that is gonna be making you do stuff you not comfortable with and always getting you in trouble. Think before you act. Pay attention in class lol at least sometimes try to because you gonna wish you did when you graduate even though a lot of us forget what we learned in class. Make your high school years fun! Dont be in a rush to graduate because when you do you gonna miss out on all the good memories with your classmates. Just be you and have fun.
Stay in school, and do your best. Don't try to be something you're not. Be the best you can be, but don't let it get to your head. Be confident. Don't do anything until you are ready. Let every choice you make be your own. Don't depend too much on money. Always care for others and be kind, it will always come out best for you. Stay away from problems whenever you can and stay on the right path. Not many teenagers like to get advice, so that shows you are open minded, which is a very good thing.
Well, I'm 17, and I just graduated. Two weeks out of high school and I'm already having regrets, sad right? Sure I had decent marks and went out all the time. I just wish I could have been better friends with certain people. It's coming to that point of my life where I know I have to let my friends go out and do what they want with their lives, but I'm finding it hard to let them go. So I sit here, wishing I was 16 again so I could redo the last year of my life, and do it right. Don't be like me and feel that my last year was missing something, make it the best year of your life :)
Really you should soak up everything. You have enough trust that you can do ALMOST anything you want to do, and little enough responsibility to be able to do ALMOST anything you want to do. Also, I know this sucks but do good in school. I have to go back to high school in September because my marks aren't good enough to get into the university programme I want to go into. I'm 20. I wish I knew that when I was your age...
There's so many things one could say.
Stay in school, learn all you can. The more the better, knowledge is true power!
Don't fall for the short term delights in life. More often than not you'll find that just because it's good to you, it's not always good for you.
No matter how life kicks you around, always be good in your heart. Keeping goodness alive inside your heart gives you strength that others can't take away.
It's human nature to look for the bad in a person or situation before they look for the good. Look beyond that and see the good!
Honor your elders, talk with them, you'll be surprised at the things you can learn.
Never listen when some one says something is impossible because it's not! If that were true, I wouldn't be here to answer your question.
In your heart is the answer to what you want and desire in life. Pick a path and throw yourself into it 100%. Stick with it and NEVER give up.
When it comes to guys, never give yourself up to the dick, ***** are a dime a dozen. Only give yourself away to a heart that is true!
The biggest obstacle one faces in life is their own fear. Face them and conquer them. Never let your fears hold you back. More often than not you'll find your fears weren't worth fearing in the first place.
Never lose control of your life or mind. Drugs and alcohol will cause you to lose both.
I hope these will help you as they have helped me in my own life. And thank you for being a person who took the time to ask a serious question on YA. I am happy to answer it!
I wish when I was 16 that someone would have told me that dropping out of school would cost me my kids and home,
Point even if school life is hard with bullies bulling you, falling your classes, not making the cheerleading team or football team. Things will get better. The sooner you start to correct the wrong in your life.
If you don't correct them now, you will have to pay for it when your older.
Start studying, make good grades and then try out for the team. Stand up to a bully by killing them with kindness, Act as if it dose not phase you or that you give a care.Soon they will leave you alone.
Smile and wave when they pass by. Act as if they are you bestfriend. Point they get mad that you waved at them, Just go up and hugh them and say hey bubby how did you like the pasrty last night? Point embarrass them in a kind way.
Fix the problems in your life now, trust in the Lord and put him first and your life will improve.
Don't have sex,do drugs, or go to those crazy parties where you know someone will slip something into your drink in high school.
Don't drop out. Will totally ruin you if you want a decent job.
Stay true to your friends - don't act ';popular'; because they will ***** about you most likely and then your old friends won't take you back
Get good grades but retain a social life. School isn't everything but DO remember that good colleges want you to belong to extra things like organizations, or helping charity, etc.
Try new things before you have no time to try them in college. Try dancing - hip/hop, jazz, etc.
Stay true to yourself and morals. Don't go smoke because it's ';cool';. You will so many of them die early because they screwed up their lungs.
Sorry it's so long. But there's alot to know!
Learn who you are.
I'm incredibly serious.
Learn who you are and don't live off of what other people make you.
I'm not saying bullshit about being ';under the influence';,
or ';don't go mainstream';,
but learn to appreciate yourself and your mind
because when you're that young, that's the most precious thing you can develop.
Also,
never stop learning.
You can stop going to school and never goto college
but never stop learning. especially things you like.
It's important- every last bit of it.
Don't follow the crowd. Make your own decisions based on good common sense.
Don't do drugs. Don't sleep with anyone till you have a ring on your finger and are married. Don't live with a guy.
Don't think because you waited to have sex till you got married you missed anything.
Love your parents, and do good to them.
Take care of them in old age, and love them.
Love God and go to church, get involved with helping people.
Then i tell you again.
I wish i was your age and know what i do know now. lol
I've heard this so much when i was younger, and i still hear that from older people.
And despite other people giving me advice, i would barely follow them in practice. Cause you only learn when you live it. You can't truly learn things in advance just from others advice, that's the sad true.
And this is my advice :x
This is a REALLY good question. I would say thaat...the things that seem like a SUPER big deal right now are not going to be a few years down the line. Don't stress out about things like school, friends, or boys because I promise you, these problems are going to be so insignificant down the line. I remember in high school getting so worked up about something bitchy a friend had said about me, or a boy ignoring me or anything like that but now I am laughing at myself. I caused myself so much more stress than was really necessary. If I could go back in time I would have tried enjoying life more because it is a really special age to be at and you should take full advantage of these years. Also, I read in your profile that you are really scared of losing your friends after high school. I have one year of university under my belt and when I came back home in April, nothing had changed. Your friends will always be there if you love them. I was super worried about that, but it wasn't like I thought it would be. My best friend is STILL my all-time bestie, not going to change EVER, and out group of friends has not changed at all. Pleeease don't worry about this! I cried A LOT last summer thinking that it would be my last time with friends. Ahhh such a good question!
I'm also 16. All I can say from what I've learned/seen through my years in life is to keep your head up and ears open. You don't know what each day will bring so being prepared is the only thing you can do. Don't do drugs ect.. all the mommy and daddy things you've heard all your life. that's the only advice one can give. No one knows what we'll say 30 years from now when we turn back saying ';I wish I knew that when i was 16';. When we do it'll be completely different from what they said to us.
Wow, intresting question. There are so many things to say but not enough time or room to say them. I could say that you have the right attitude, search for excellence. Enlightenment is not just for the bhuddists. Know this: the answer is simple, it exists all around you and it will all make sense in the end. Try to see the world for what it REALLY is and not just your perception of it.
other intresting things to ponder: there is 360 degrees behind the truth, each one unique in its own way. The key to world peace lies with each individual. thats all i got.
live life to the fullest! don't worry about being the coolest. always think positively. do your best in whatever you're doing. think about your future. RESPECT YOURSELF %26amp; your body. don't obsess over any guy. don't let anybody tell you who you are or who you're supposed to be. know what you deserve %26amp; don't you dare settle for less. practice good habits. respect your elders. take any good chance you get. volunteer. you're young still, don't be too serious. smile more often :)
WEAR A CONDOM hahah u dont want any kids. if u do drugs make sure u no the side effects. if u drink dont drink and drive. make sure u no were your dudes been. do good in school go to college and get a good job that pays wells. friends are forever but boyfriend/girlsfriends are just temp. in life u only got 2 things family and religion. life is tough and if u get down and sad if u mess up dont worry get up and try again. cutting n stuff dont solve any problems it just causes more. yah thats all i got. hope this helps
welll as a 17 year old i do :p
just dont take your freedom for granted.
try your hardest in school, who cares if you'll look stupid. the people who dont try will look the most stupid in the long run.
dont stress out about little things.
dont do stupid things like drink. youve got the whole of your life for that.
it's not worth it.
dont be pressured to do what you dont want to.
trust your mum, they do know whats best for the most part. they are just looking out for you :)
hmmmmmm what else?
i wish i knew a while ago that just trust your gut instincts, theyre ALWAYS right.
think about things fully before you do it.
and remember, whatever is meant to be will be. fate is awesome :)
i think thats it :)
Life sucks, no matter who you are or what you have. So, do not feel that you are unfairly put upon, or that your life could be better if only you had this or that. Rich people hate their lives as much as the rest of us. The only way to combat this problem is to live by design, not chance. Don't wait for your ship to come in, because it will leave you sitting on the dock until you die. If you want anything, you have to get up and make it happen. Your life will be a good as you make it, but remember, life still sucks. You will never come to a point that you cannot find anything to whine about. You must simply choose not to whine.
Go on get your College education even if you have to claw your way through by your fingernails..
.
If you have any thoughts about joining the service darn sure get your B.S. degree first and take ROTC, in some form so you can go in as an officer.
.
Know I am going to get thumbs down from the guys for this one:
Don't do it just because all your friends are doing it.
Guys go out with easy girls for one reason and it ain't marriage and kids.
And if a guy is telling you he loves but blah, blah blah just remember we were using those same lines in girls when I was a teenager to get girls in bed with us.
Steer clear of brown nosers, back stabbers and suck a$$es: They aren't your friends. They'll knife you in the back in a heart beat.
live life like you have no tomorrow, dont have regrets, dont worry about what will happen if.... just do it and have fun. you can only experiment whe you are the age you are, when you grow up you will have a job to worry about and too many risk factors to go with it..,
ok what i think u should do is chill. ur sixteen dnt worry about jobs focus on school. oh nd get involved in it like sports nd stuff. k hangout with friends and meet new ones. dnt get caught up in a relationship cus no matter what iits most likely gonna end. so stay single and keep them boyz wanting some haha. nd if ur a virgin dnt let sum dickweed get in ur pants unless u know for a fact he's the one. dnt get fooled. umm if u wanna kno more let me kno kk
I think about these things throughout my daily life, no matter what it is these these always apply.
';God will never give you anything you cant handle';.
';Live, Love, Laugh';
Don't regret anything because at the time its what you wanted.
You cant live your life without making mistakes, remember them, learn from them and apply them in your future.
Be independent, don't wait for things to happen, make them happen for yourself.
You are responsible for your happiness no one else so don't let people steal your joy.
Don't be afraid of life but use caution when necessary.
Follow your instincts and watch for red flags.
Question everything, including authority.
Don't believe everything you hear.
Let the people you love know that you love them.
Be happy with yourself before you become attached to another.
Do the right thing.
Life.
it goes on.
people die, people cry. babies are born and fortune 500 companies fail.
Everyday is a gift, even if it sucks @ss.
dont make promises you cant keep. they'll haunt you in the end.
no one is perfect, so give them a second chance. forgive but dont forget. so you wont be mistreated. if someone isnt treating you right, seperate yourself from that person.
surround yourself with the ones you love. and always be laughing.
You have your whole life in front of you. Focus on your education and have enjoy your teenage years. Don't take anything for granted. Make time for God in your life as well. ----------------------------------------…If you could give life advice to a 16 year old what would it be?
1. Don't go to college right away unless you can pay for it. But get good grades in high school regardless.
2. Go to college to learn about what you want to learn about, not necessarily to start a career. Alot of people have jobs that are completely different than their degrees
3. The nerdy guys are usually the most interesting guys
4. Four years from now high school won't matter
5. Use protection, and have sex only as often as you're comfortable with. Don't assume that a guy will stick around or like you just because you let him in the, um, happy zone.
6. Somewhat related to #5 but guys will not change, especially as they get older. No, not even for you.
7. Have a good time, don't sweat the small stuff, and any other myriad of info you can also get from a motivational poster with a cat on it.
Think about the choices you make now. If you think about it all you really have to do is ask yourself one question. In ten years, will I look back at this event and say ';wow, I wish I had done that ';or will you look at the event and say';wow, I wish I hadn't done that.';
To be a little more specific and example would be cigarettes. In ten years when you might be trying to quit smoking because they are so expensive and probably completely illegal by then how would you answer that question? Or will you be in a dead end job going ';Wow, I wish I had stayed in school.';
So the best advice is to just take a minute to think about how your actions now may change your life later and you will usually find the right path on your own. Most of the people who say that didn't take time to think about the results of the actions they took (or didn't take.)
well, im 20. I am glad to not be 16 anymore. It is so nice being in college and out of high school. just do well in school so that you can go to a good college and not be at a junior college like me. Also, choose your friends carefully. i have been backstabbed so many times by my ';Best friends'; most of them have hooked up with or tried to hook up wiht my boyfriend then harass and spread rumors about me. i was given the advice to have one or two very close gf;s and that as you get older you lose most of your friends and you only end up with the one or two who will stick with you forever. AND use a condom. dont get HPV look up HPV.1 out of 2 men have it. 8 out of 10 women have it. it causes cervical cancer. get the shot NOW. i wish i knew that when i was 16...
Be aware of the fact you don't know as much about life as you think you do. And people trying to talk you out of doing something are usually right. But you can never admit that. Be patient in most everything that's important in life, you have two outcomes, you screw everything up and you get somebody to rescue you. or you really follow that little bit of doubt you are trying to bury, and don't do it to begin with. Most people have a hunch or the feeling somethings not quite right , You can't lose anything from following the hunch.
don't take anyone in your life for granted, because they are there one day, and gone the next
Also... don't take school for granted either, make the most of it, because as soon as you leave you wish you hadn't... and dont take your friends for granted... enoy every waking moment you are around them, life is too short to fight
Life is not all about having sex. Kids every day are having sex when they don't even know what it is. Don't be too much in a hurry to ';grow up.'; Look towards the positives of everything and don't get too upset when things turn out badly for you, because being angry never solves a problem. When you want something bad enough, you will get it eventually, so instead of fearing the bad, desire the good. Don't do what everyone else is doing and don't fall under peer pressure. Only do something when YOU TRULY want to do it, which includes sex, drugs, and drinking. If you want to do it, then do it, but be prepared for whatever consequences come after. I'm not saying there will be, but you never know. Live life optimistically. Keep an open mind about everything and don't be judgmental. Be willing to learn new things and try something new. Learn to live and live to learn.
If you want happiness and you think of happiness, you will have it. ';Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.'; W. Clement Stone
Its not as bad as you think
Even though you think you have no freedom, you DO and this IS the best time of life
Love your body and skin now, even if you hate it you will realise when you are older how good it was
Take care of your skin, dont over tan, moisturize.If you dont you might look like a leather boot not sexy ever.
Hes not worth it if he makes you crazy/cry/isn't interested.
Say no to drugs that you dont know what they are, if you dont know exactly what it is dont touch it
You know that thing that is so unfair and you hate your parents for?
You probably wont remember in 6 years
Unless they are very crap your parents DO want you to have fun, they just want you to be safe so dont be too harsh on them
Act your age, be you, enjoy life while your young. Dont grow up so fast just try to make your experiences as memories and not mistakes or regrets. Have fun live it up but also be smart with it. Choose your friends wisely and realize that everyone is not your friend because we have people that are out to use you and just be a hater surround yourself with real people not people that is gonna be making you do stuff you not comfortable with and always getting you in trouble. Think before you act. Pay attention in class lol at least sometimes try to because you gonna wish you did when you graduate even though a lot of us forget what we learned in class. Make your high school years fun! Dont be in a rush to graduate because when you do you gonna miss out on all the good memories with your classmates. Just be you and have fun.
Stay in school, and do your best. Don't try to be something you're not. Be the best you can be, but don't let it get to your head. Be confident. Don't do anything until you are ready. Let every choice you make be your own. Don't depend too much on money. Always care for others and be kind, it will always come out best for you. Stay away from problems whenever you can and stay on the right path. Not many teenagers like to get advice, so that shows you are open minded, which is a very good thing.
Well, I'm 17, and I just graduated. Two weeks out of high school and I'm already having regrets, sad right? Sure I had decent marks and went out all the time. I just wish I could have been better friends with certain people. It's coming to that point of my life where I know I have to let my friends go out and do what they want with their lives, but I'm finding it hard to let them go. So I sit here, wishing I was 16 again so I could redo the last year of my life, and do it right. Don't be like me and feel that my last year was missing something, make it the best year of your life :)
Really you should soak up everything. You have enough trust that you can do ALMOST anything you want to do, and little enough responsibility to be able to do ALMOST anything you want to do. Also, I know this sucks but do good in school. I have to go back to high school in September because my marks aren't good enough to get into the university programme I want to go into. I'm 20. I wish I knew that when I was your age...
There's so many things one could say.
Stay in school, learn all you can. The more the better, knowledge is true power!
Don't fall for the short term delights in life. More often than not you'll find that just because it's good to you, it's not always good for you.
No matter how life kicks you around, always be good in your heart. Keeping goodness alive inside your heart gives you strength that others can't take away.
It's human nature to look for the bad in a person or situation before they look for the good. Look beyond that and see the good!
Honor your elders, talk with them, you'll be surprised at the things you can learn.
Never listen when some one says something is impossible because it's not! If that were true, I wouldn't be here to answer your question.
In your heart is the answer to what you want and desire in life. Pick a path and throw yourself into it 100%. Stick with it and NEVER give up.
When it comes to guys, never give yourself up to the dick, ***** are a dime a dozen. Only give yourself away to a heart that is true!
The biggest obstacle one faces in life is their own fear. Face them and conquer them. Never let your fears hold you back. More often than not you'll find your fears weren't worth fearing in the first place.
Never lose control of your life or mind. Drugs and alcohol will cause you to lose both.
I hope these will help you as they have helped me in my own life. And thank you for being a person who took the time to ask a serious question on YA. I am happy to answer it!
I wish when I was 16 that someone would have told me that dropping out of school would cost me my kids and home,
Point even if school life is hard with bullies bulling you, falling your classes, not making the cheerleading team or football team. Things will get better. The sooner you start to correct the wrong in your life.
If you don't correct them now, you will have to pay for it when your older.
Start studying, make good grades and then try out for the team. Stand up to a bully by killing them with kindness, Act as if it dose not phase you or that you give a care.Soon they will leave you alone.
Smile and wave when they pass by. Act as if they are you bestfriend. Point they get mad that you waved at them, Just go up and hugh them and say hey bubby how did you like the pasrty last night? Point embarrass them in a kind way.
Fix the problems in your life now, trust in the Lord and put him first and your life will improve.
Don't have sex,do drugs, or go to those crazy parties where you know someone will slip something into your drink in high school.
Don't drop out. Will totally ruin you if you want a decent job.
Stay true to your friends - don't act ';popular'; because they will ***** about you most likely and then your old friends won't take you back
Get good grades but retain a social life. School isn't everything but DO remember that good colleges want you to belong to extra things like organizations, or helping charity, etc.
Try new things before you have no time to try them in college. Try dancing - hip/hop, jazz, etc.
Stay true to yourself and morals. Don't go smoke because it's ';cool';. You will so many of them die early because they screwed up their lungs.
Sorry it's so long. But there's alot to know!
Learn who you are.
I'm incredibly serious.
Learn who you are and don't live off of what other people make you.
I'm not saying bullshit about being ';under the influence';,
or ';don't go mainstream';,
but learn to appreciate yourself and your mind
because when you're that young, that's the most precious thing you can develop.
Also,
never stop learning.
You can stop going to school and never goto college
but never stop learning. especially things you like.
It's important- every last bit of it.
Don't follow the crowd. Make your own decisions based on good common sense.
Don't do drugs. Don't sleep with anyone till you have a ring on your finger and are married. Don't live with a guy.
Don't think because you waited to have sex till you got married you missed anything.
Love your parents, and do good to them.
Take care of them in old age, and love them.
Love God and go to church, get involved with helping people.
Then i tell you again.
I wish i was your age and know what i do know now. lol
I've heard this so much when i was younger, and i still hear that from older people.
And despite other people giving me advice, i would barely follow them in practice. Cause you only learn when you live it. You can't truly learn things in advance just from others advice, that's the sad true.
And this is my advice :x
This is a REALLY good question. I would say thaat...the things that seem like a SUPER big deal right now are not going to be a few years down the line. Don't stress out about things like school, friends, or boys because I promise you, these problems are going to be so insignificant down the line. I remember in high school getting so worked up about something bitchy a friend had said about me, or a boy ignoring me or anything like that but now I am laughing at myself. I caused myself so much more stress than was really necessary. If I could go back in time I would have tried enjoying life more because it is a really special age to be at and you should take full advantage of these years. Also, I read in your profile that you are really scared of losing your friends after high school. I have one year of university under my belt and when I came back home in April, nothing had changed. Your friends will always be there if you love them. I was super worried about that, but it wasn't like I thought it would be. My best friend is STILL my all-time bestie, not going to change EVER, and out group of friends has not changed at all. Pleeease don't worry about this! I cried A LOT last summer thinking that it would be my last time with friends. Ahhh such a good question!
I'm also 16. All I can say from what I've learned/seen through my years in life is to keep your head up and ears open. You don't know what each day will bring so being prepared is the only thing you can do. Don't do drugs ect.. all the mommy and daddy things you've heard all your life. that's the only advice one can give. No one knows what we'll say 30 years from now when we turn back saying ';I wish I knew that when i was 16';. When we do it'll be completely different from what they said to us.
Wow, intresting question. There are so many things to say but not enough time or room to say them. I could say that you have the right attitude, search for excellence. Enlightenment is not just for the bhuddists. Know this: the answer is simple, it exists all around you and it will all make sense in the end. Try to see the world for what it REALLY is and not just your perception of it.
other intresting things to ponder: there is 360 degrees behind the truth, each one unique in its own way. The key to world peace lies with each individual. thats all i got.
live life to the fullest! don't worry about being the coolest. always think positively. do your best in whatever you're doing. think about your future. RESPECT YOURSELF %26amp; your body. don't obsess over any guy. don't let anybody tell you who you are or who you're supposed to be. know what you deserve %26amp; don't you dare settle for less. practice good habits. respect your elders. take any good chance you get. volunteer. you're young still, don't be too serious. smile more often :)
WEAR A CONDOM hahah u dont want any kids. if u do drugs make sure u no the side effects. if u drink dont drink and drive. make sure u no were your dudes been. do good in school go to college and get a good job that pays wells. friends are forever but boyfriend/girlsfriends are just temp. in life u only got 2 things family and religion. life is tough and if u get down and sad if u mess up dont worry get up and try again. cutting n stuff dont solve any problems it just causes more. yah thats all i got. hope this helps
welll as a 17 year old i do :p
just dont take your freedom for granted.
try your hardest in school, who cares if you'll look stupid. the people who dont try will look the most stupid in the long run.
dont stress out about little things.
dont do stupid things like drink. youve got the whole of your life for that.
it's not worth it.
dont be pressured to do what you dont want to.
trust your mum, they do know whats best for the most part. they are just looking out for you :)
hmmmmmm what else?
i wish i knew a while ago that just trust your gut instincts, theyre ALWAYS right.
think about things fully before you do it.
and remember, whatever is meant to be will be. fate is awesome :)
i think thats it :)
Life sucks, no matter who you are or what you have. So, do not feel that you are unfairly put upon, or that your life could be better if only you had this or that. Rich people hate their lives as much as the rest of us. The only way to combat this problem is to live by design, not chance. Don't wait for your ship to come in, because it will leave you sitting on the dock until you die. If you want anything, you have to get up and make it happen. Your life will be a good as you make it, but remember, life still sucks. You will never come to a point that you cannot find anything to whine about. You must simply choose not to whine.
Go on get your College education even if you have to claw your way through by your fingernails..
.
If you have any thoughts about joining the service darn sure get your B.S. degree first and take ROTC, in some form so you can go in as an officer.
.
Know I am going to get thumbs down from the guys for this one:
Don't do it just because all your friends are doing it.
Guys go out with easy girls for one reason and it ain't marriage and kids.
And if a guy is telling you he loves but blah, blah blah just remember we were using those same lines in girls when I was a teenager to get girls in bed with us.
Steer clear of brown nosers, back stabbers and suck a$$es: They aren't your friends. They'll knife you in the back in a heart beat.
live life like you have no tomorrow, dont have regrets, dont worry about what will happen if.... just do it and have fun. you can only experiment whe you are the age you are, when you grow up you will have a job to worry about and too many risk factors to go with it..,
ok what i think u should do is chill. ur sixteen dnt worry about jobs focus on school. oh nd get involved in it like sports nd stuff. k hangout with friends and meet new ones. dnt get caught up in a relationship cus no matter what iits most likely gonna end. so stay single and keep them boyz wanting some haha. nd if ur a virgin dnt let sum dickweed get in ur pants unless u know for a fact he's the one. dnt get fooled. umm if u wanna kno more let me kno kk
I think about these things throughout my daily life, no matter what it is these these always apply.
';God will never give you anything you cant handle';.
';Live, Love, Laugh';
Don't regret anything because at the time its what you wanted.
You cant live your life without making mistakes, remember them, learn from them and apply them in your future.
Be independent, don't wait for things to happen, make them happen for yourself.
You are responsible for your happiness no one else so don't let people steal your joy.
Don't be afraid of life but use caution when necessary.
Follow your instincts and watch for red flags.
Question everything, including authority.
Don't believe everything you hear.
Let the people you love know that you love them.
Be happy with yourself before you become attached to another.
Do the right thing.
Life.
it goes on.
people die, people cry. babies are born and fortune 500 companies fail.
Everyday is a gift, even if it sucks @ss.
dont make promises you cant keep. they'll haunt you in the end.
no one is perfect, so give them a second chance. forgive but dont forget. so you wont be mistreated. if someone isnt treating you right, seperate yourself from that person.
surround yourself with the ones you love. and always be laughing.
First time mom to be very soon, would like advice on how to take care of new born, advice on the delivery etc?
Hi all,
this is my first pregnancy, am due in 6 weeks, would like any ideas, advice, tips on how to prepare for the delivery, anything odd to expect that my ob/gyn isnt telling me..... and offcourse how to take care of my new born in the first week esp. the first night/day.
Thanks.First time mom to be very soon, would like advice on how to take care of new born, advice on the delivery etc?
Lift those knees high to your ears because the Lamaze course doesn't prepare you for the push. (I am a dad that has been there for all four sons and the son coming in SIX WEEKS!) As for the first few weeks, bond with the child. breast feed him/her often, crying is usually a sign that they need to be burped. Don't let them sit in their own poo or urine, it will leave them sore. Learn to be giving, because that will be your new role. If your husband works, remember he does need to go to work, so let him sleep and, sorry, accept that your baby will wake up. If you let them sleep in your bed, (we have) it will allow you to breast feed and nap, don't worry, babies are tougher than you think and you are a far lighter sleeper than you think. If your husband is taking a leave, and you aren't breast feeding, he should have equal duties. However, if you are breastfeeding, the duties will never be equal because you are the food provider. Make sure you see the lactation specialist, breast feeding isn't as easy to do as you think (the first time it is a trick) Most of all, love your child much. He/she is going to take your cues about life from day one, and if you are happy and in love with him/her and your husband, it will set the table for the next 100 years of his/her life.First time mom to be very soon, would like advice on how to take care of new born, advice on the delivery etc?
well i had a c-section....after 17 hours of labor!!!!! dont stress out... your a mommy now....
i was worried how i would handle things with a nwe born, but to be honest a natural instinct came over me and i just knew wat to do, everything kinda fell into place....i wasnt able to breastfeed as long as i wanted, but the week or so i did was amazing so if you can, do.
as for the birth, i didnt know wat to expect having not gone to any birthing classes and not being told anything by my MW, i was induced as i was 2 weeks overdue, and that i am told increases the pain, but i only had gas and air and even then i didnt have anything for the last 3hours of my 12hour labour. i was also very lucky and hardly tore as well, if you dont want stitches let your MW know asap, i was lucky and mine helped give birth without much tearing, and it was baby's shoulders that tore me too.....good luck with your birth, also try www.babycentre.co.uk i found that really helpful, so many mums giving advice and helping each other, also a fair few birthing stories too....good luck and most importantly, enjoy your baby xx
My advice is to drink plenty of water before you go to deliver. They usually wont allow you any while you are delivering. Get lots of rest now because you probaly wont get any for months to come. If you are going to get an epidural wait untill you really need it because it can slow the birthing process. As far as taking care of your baby, you will figure that out. Just love it and hold it and feed it and keep its diaper clean and it will be happy. That is the most precious time, remember to enjoy it because it only takes a few weeks for your baby to want down and now want you to hold it any more. I miss that time so much.
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every woman is different when it comes 2 pregnancy when i went into labour 2 and a half months ago i was really scared but i hap my partner with me in the room so that really helped me alot i also had the gas and the epidural and 13 and a half hours later my beautiful baby girl was born.with the epidural u cant move at all 2 help ease the pain it just numbs ur whole body. make sure u are comfortable with whatever u choose as ur pain relif... i hope all goes well with the delivery of ur baby.and good luckblackheads makeup reviews
this is my first pregnancy, am due in 6 weeks, would like any ideas, advice, tips on how to prepare for the delivery, anything odd to expect that my ob/gyn isnt telling me..... and offcourse how to take care of my new born in the first week esp. the first night/day.
Thanks.First time mom to be very soon, would like advice on how to take care of new born, advice on the delivery etc?
Lift those knees high to your ears because the Lamaze course doesn't prepare you for the push. (I am a dad that has been there for all four sons and the son coming in SIX WEEKS!) As for the first few weeks, bond with the child. breast feed him/her often, crying is usually a sign that they need to be burped. Don't let them sit in their own poo or urine, it will leave them sore. Learn to be giving, because that will be your new role. If your husband works, remember he does need to go to work, so let him sleep and, sorry, accept that your baby will wake up. If you let them sleep in your bed, (we have) it will allow you to breast feed and nap, don't worry, babies are tougher than you think and you are a far lighter sleeper than you think. If your husband is taking a leave, and you aren't breast feeding, he should have equal duties. However, if you are breastfeeding, the duties will never be equal because you are the food provider. Make sure you see the lactation specialist, breast feeding isn't as easy to do as you think (the first time it is a trick) Most of all, love your child much. He/she is going to take your cues about life from day one, and if you are happy and in love with him/her and your husband, it will set the table for the next 100 years of his/her life.First time mom to be very soon, would like advice on how to take care of new born, advice on the delivery etc?
well i had a c-section....after 17 hours of labor!!!!! dont stress out... your a mommy now....
i was worried how i would handle things with a nwe born, but to be honest a natural instinct came over me and i just knew wat to do, everything kinda fell into place....i wasnt able to breastfeed as long as i wanted, but the week or so i did was amazing so if you can, do.
as for the birth, i didnt know wat to expect having not gone to any birthing classes and not being told anything by my MW, i was induced as i was 2 weeks overdue, and that i am told increases the pain, but i only had gas and air and even then i didnt have anything for the last 3hours of my 12hour labour. i was also very lucky and hardly tore as well, if you dont want stitches let your MW know asap, i was lucky and mine helped give birth without much tearing, and it was baby's shoulders that tore me too.....good luck with your birth, also try www.babycentre.co.uk i found that really helpful, so many mums giving advice and helping each other, also a fair few birthing stories too....good luck and most importantly, enjoy your baby xx
My advice is to drink plenty of water before you go to deliver. They usually wont allow you any while you are delivering. Get lots of rest now because you probaly wont get any for months to come. If you are going to get an epidural wait untill you really need it because it can slow the birthing process. As far as taking care of your baby, you will figure that out. Just love it and hold it and feed it and keep its diaper clean and it will be happy. That is the most precious time, remember to enjoy it because it only takes a few weeks for your baby to want down and now want you to hold it any more. I miss that time so much.
read these.
every woman is different when it comes 2 pregnancy when i went into labour 2 and a half months ago i was really scared but i hap my partner with me in the room so that really helped me alot i also had the gas and the epidural and 13 and a half hours later my beautiful baby girl was born.with the epidural u cant move at all 2 help ease the pain it just numbs ur whole body. make sure u are comfortable with whatever u choose as ur pain relif... i hope all goes well with the delivery of ur baby.and good luck
Does anyone have any advice, on how i should be learning web development coding, like in which order ?
like say html, xhtml, javascript, etcc. or html, xhtml, php, which order do you suggest ?Does anyone have any advice, on how i should be learning web development coding, like in which order ?
I don't think there's an utterly independent order. Some of the items fall logically together by tier.
Presentation/View - Browser Tier
X/HTML, CSS, DOM, JavaScript - each of these has its own peculiarities in the different browsers. I suggest starting with X/HTML, since it provides the presentation structure for a document. The appearance attributes of the HTML are modified by CSS and can be manipulated by JavaScript operations on the DOM. As you become more adept in X/HTML, you'll see the need for the addition of CSS and JavaScript - sort of an organic thing.
Program/Controller - Web App Tier
Perl, PHP, C++, Java, etc...pick one and get good at it (I'm a Java guy). This is where the traffic-cop control goes. What's going to be done and which program is going to do it gets handled here. The skills you'll gain by learning any of these will be extensible back to your JavaScripting and forward to the next tier.
Model/Data - Business Tier
The abstract data-model that represents the business lives here. Your Controller tier language will be useful and you'll probably need to add SQL for addressing databases.
The suggested order is based on the target of developing an all-around developer who can do everything. You may prefer to do fewer things better. I know Java developers who couldn'y style (code CSS) their way out of a wet paper bag. I know UIEs who have no clue what a class is.
I'm bettin' you'll get a bunch of answers to this question. Read 'em all and think about what you enjoy and want.Does anyone have any advice, on how i should be learning web development coding, like in which order ?
Start with HTML and CSS (Cascading Style Sheets). Then you can learn how to manipulate the HTML objects using Javascript. Then learn PHP and MySQL or whatever server languages you're interested in.
Start with basic HTML...then go to Java...
learn html and css and be able to remember them at the ability to write the code yourself witout using any kind of resource.
then after these, if you really want to learn php then learn it and when you've mastered it by mastered i mean being able to code a basic client managment system coding it by head no notes or copying scripts.
then you can learn xhtml then xml then javascript and ajax then you can combine these knowledges into php amd make your crm system look cool.
all these knowledges combined should take about 5 years to study and practice and remember your code and create a few applications of of it.
I don't think there's an utterly independent order. Some of the items fall logically together by tier.
Presentation/View - Browser Tier
X/HTML, CSS, DOM, JavaScript - each of these has its own peculiarities in the different browsers. I suggest starting with X/HTML, since it provides the presentation structure for a document. The appearance attributes of the HTML are modified by CSS and can be manipulated by JavaScript operations on the DOM. As you become more adept in X/HTML, you'll see the need for the addition of CSS and JavaScript - sort of an organic thing.
Program/Controller - Web App Tier
Perl, PHP, C++, Java, etc...pick one and get good at it (I'm a Java guy). This is where the traffic-cop control goes. What's going to be done and which program is going to do it gets handled here. The skills you'll gain by learning any of these will be extensible back to your JavaScripting and forward to the next tier.
Model/Data - Business Tier
The abstract data-model that represents the business lives here. Your Controller tier language will be useful and you'll probably need to add SQL for addressing databases.
The suggested order is based on the target of developing an all-around developer who can do everything. You may prefer to do fewer things better. I know Java developers who couldn'y style (code CSS) their way out of a wet paper bag. I know UIEs who have no clue what a class is.
I'm bettin' you'll get a bunch of answers to this question. Read 'em all and think about what you enjoy and want.Does anyone have any advice, on how i should be learning web development coding, like in which order ?
Start with HTML and CSS (Cascading Style Sheets). Then you can learn how to manipulate the HTML objects using Javascript. Then learn PHP and MySQL or whatever server languages you're interested in.
Start with basic HTML...then go to Java...
learn html and css and be able to remember them at the ability to write the code yourself witout using any kind of resource.
then after these, if you really want to learn php then learn it and when you've mastered it by mastered i mean being able to code a basic client managment system coding it by head no notes or copying scripts.
then you can learn xhtml then xml then javascript and ajax then you can combine these knowledges into php amd make your crm system look cool.
all these knowledges combined should take about 5 years to study and practice and remember your code and create a few applications of of it.
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